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by chökyi
Wed Dec 10, 2014 11:06 pm
Forum: Help Required
Topic: Healing from abuse vs holding "Self" as precious
Replies: 22
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Re: Healing from abuse vs holding "Self" as precious

I wanted to thank everyone who posted on this thread. I've been coming back and reading your messages over and over again, at intervals, in the course of all these weeks. At first it took me time to manage to process all the input, but it's been invaluable. Today I manage to re-read everything, and ...
by chökyi
Tue Jun 24, 2014 11:08 am
Forum: Help Required
Topic: Healing from abuse vs holding "Self" as precious
Replies: 22
Views: 6481

Re: Healing from abuse vs holding "Self" as precious

As for your comments on karma, I was involved in a couple of productive discussions on that old chestnut here on Dharmawheel a while back (when I had more time for such things!) - As far as I'm concerned, one major conclusion was that negative karma falls into the category of 'innocent mistake', si...
by chökyi
Mon Jun 23, 2014 5:31 pm
Forum: Help Required
Topic: Healing from abuse vs holding "Self" as precious
Replies: 22
Views: 6481

Re: Healing from abuse vs holding "Self" as precious

The pain/sadness-suffering can be seen/visualized as a child needing love, not as merely own being. Own being must comfort that child, just like we should do with any suffering being, which is needing our care. Interesting. I remember coping with trauma during flashback by kind of stepping out of m...
by chökyi
Mon Jun 23, 2014 11:06 am
Forum: Help Required
Topic: Healing from abuse vs holding "Self" as precious
Replies: 22
Views: 6481

Re: Healing from abuse vs holding "Self" as precious

Learn not to hold past memories to be so important in relationship to your whole being now, your whole existence. Your past memories do not arise all the time, so when not arised, you are still you present here-did not disappear. Good point. I think I've familiarised myself with this notion over th...
by chökyi
Mon Jun 23, 2014 9:32 am
Forum: Help Required
Topic: Healing from abuse vs holding "Self" as precious
Replies: 22
Views: 6481

Re: Healing from abuse vs holding "Self" as precious

Thank you all for the insightful answers and food for thought. Personally, I've found that loving-kindness ( mettā ) meditation and practice is most helpful in overcoming feelings of ill-will towards myself and others. Thank you, James. I agree, the Mettā Sutta is a beautiful, inspiring exposition o...
by chökyi
Sat Jun 21, 2014 10:16 pm
Forum: Help Required
Topic: Healing from abuse vs holding "Self" as precious
Replies: 22
Views: 6481

Healing from abuse vs holding "Self" as precious

Hello, I'm new here. I've joined this forum because I could use some perspective and help about certain aspects of my Dharma practice. I'm still struggling to harmonise two things in my life: on the one hand, my master frequently repeats we ought to stop thinking of the "Self" as precious ...

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