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- Fri Aug 29, 2014 4:34 pm
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Relationship problems, anger, violence
- Replies: 17
- Views: 3302
Re: Relationship problems, anger, violence
Hi Qing Tian, thanks for your comments and support. Cultural elements? Probably. But we are also both aware that we are both under a lot of pressure individually, and our circumstances together, financial and otherwise. We seem fairly stuck, not knowing how to move our relationship forward or how to...
- Tue Aug 26, 2014 12:39 pm
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Relationship problems, anger, violence
- Replies: 17
- Views: 3302
Re: Relationship problems, anger, violence
I realised that if everything in my life was somehow stable, and I felt healthy, then I could try to be “like a rock” and offer consistency and stability for my wife. But when my side of things outside the relationship are not going smoothly, and when the marriage is not going smoothly, and my wife ...
- Mon Aug 18, 2014 5:04 pm
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Relationship problems, anger, violence
- Replies: 17
- Views: 3302
Re: Relationship problems, anger, violence
Thanks everyone for these thoughtful and varied comments and suggestions. I particularly agree with Sherab Dorje on getting some advice from a trained therapist or psychologist. The problem is that English is not my wife’s first language, and she finds it hard to communicate well in English when it ...
- Fri Aug 08, 2014 11:57 pm
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Relationship problems, anger, violence
- Replies: 17
- Views: 3302
Re: Relationship problems, anger, violence
Hi, Thanks for your replies. My first thoughts when reading these responses are a huge contradiction between two viewpoints: (1) Soar suggested that: “the kind of calmness you are holding as an ideal for yourself and her is not helping” and “sometimes you gotta get down and dirty into these negativi...
- Fri Aug 08, 2014 5:33 pm
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Relationship problems, anger, violence
- Replies: 17
- Views: 3302
Relationship problems, anger, violence
Hi, I’m going through a tough time in my marriage these days. Things are not going smoothly. We’re both under a lot of work pressure etc. I could write pages but I’ll try to keep this concise, limited to two questions – and I would appreciate any helpful comments (particularly from a Buddhist perspe...