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by spincycle99
Fri Aug 29, 2014 4:34 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Relationship problems, anger, violence
Replies: 17
Views: 3302

Re: Relationship problems, anger, violence

Hi Qing Tian, thanks for your comments and support. Cultural elements? Probably. But we are also both aware that we are both under a lot of pressure individually, and our circumstances together, financial and otherwise. We seem fairly stuck, not knowing how to move our relationship forward or how to...
by spincycle99
Tue Aug 26, 2014 12:39 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Relationship problems, anger, violence
Replies: 17
Views: 3302

Re: Relationship problems, anger, violence

I realised that if everything in my life was somehow stable, and I felt healthy, then I could try to be “like a rock” and offer consistency and stability for my wife. But when my side of things outside the relationship are not going smoothly, and when the marriage is not going smoothly, and my wife ...
by spincycle99
Mon Aug 18, 2014 5:04 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Relationship problems, anger, violence
Replies: 17
Views: 3302

Re: Relationship problems, anger, violence

Thanks everyone for these thoughtful and varied comments and suggestions. I particularly agree with Sherab Dorje on getting some advice from a trained therapist or psychologist. The problem is that English is not my wife’s first language, and she finds it hard to communicate well in English when it ...
by spincycle99
Fri Aug 08, 2014 11:57 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Relationship problems, anger, violence
Replies: 17
Views: 3302

Re: Relationship problems, anger, violence

Hi, Thanks for your replies. My first thoughts when reading these responses are a huge contradiction between two viewpoints: (1) Soar suggested that: “the kind of calmness you are holding as an ideal for yourself and her is not helping” and “sometimes you gotta get down and dirty into these negativi...
by spincycle99
Fri Aug 08, 2014 5:33 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Relationship problems, anger, violence
Replies: 17
Views: 3302

Relationship problems, anger, violence

Hi, I’m going through a tough time in my marriage these days. Things are not going smoothly. We’re both under a lot of work pressure etc. I could write pages but I’ll try to keep this concise, limited to two questions – and I would appreciate any helpful comments (particularly from a Buddhist perspe...

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