Simon E. wrote:
Neither humour nor sarcasm.
You see I don't think that recalling memories achieves anything very much.
I think we have inherited a cultural myth through a hundred novels and movies that is a hazy memory of Freud.
That myth says that if we can just recall traumatic or formative moments or episodes that we will have some kind of release from them.
I see no reason at all for believing that.
Most current therapies pay no attention at all to the events of childhood or other memories.
They start with the here and now.
They concentrate on the stories that we tell ourselves about our identity..and change those stories.
So, for example, if someone is experiencing repetitive feelings of sadness or failure, rather than asking how that happened, which is long ago and largely irrelevant, modern therapies work at catching ourselves doing that repetition, and doing something more positive instead.
Its both simple and hard. We have a lot invested in old pain.
Hello Simon (also my Father's name
"That myth says that if we can just recall traumatic or formative moments or episodes that we will have some kind of release from them.
I see no reason at all for believing that."
I agree, although I'd refer to it as a tired and worn out plot element; I don't know anyone who actually believes this to be true.
"Most current therapies"..... YES! You might enjoy reading Buddha's Brain by Rick Hanson and Richard Mendius. They explain in detail the process you describe.
You may not believe "recalling memories achieves anything very much" but is this based on personal exploration or stories by others? Maybe it depends on what you're looking for? If you go grasping for answers I doubt you'll find many.
But if you're only reviewing old pleasant memories you're only doing what we all do all the time. I don't believe the age of a memory has anything to do with it.
I believe we're in agreement that going backward to find answers is the wrong direction.