I find it helpful to discern the conceptual conditioned, and non-conceptual nonconditioned in which thoughts are not identified as mine/ours.
Like the conceptual conditioned can be seen like some traditions call it little mind
( story of the frog ). That little one thinks to be the owner of thoughts but is infact enslaved by them (due to grasping to their solid reality I guess), while the nonconditioned or vast mind without beginning or end is mastering mind and the free thoughts
are as nectar or light to show the delusion of me-thought or me-mind from which others-mind arises.
"The two main types of mind are explained as the conceptual and the non-conceptual. The conceptual is the "normal" mind aspect we use to survive in daily life, but is ultimately mistaken about the way in which reality exists. The non-conceptual type of mind is also called the Buddha nature, rigpa (Tib.), fundamental pure nature of mind which realises emptiness (see the page on Wisdom).
Study and training the mind in wisdom uses the conceptual mind, like preparing the mind before the underlying non-conceptual Buddha-nature of the mind can appear".http://viewonbuddhism.org/mind.html
“Sentient beings, self and others, enemies and dear ones—all are made by thoughts. It is like seeing a rope and mistaking it for a snake. When we think that the rope is a snake, we are scared, but once we see that we are looking at a rope, our fear dissipates. We have been deluded by our thoughts. Likewise, mentally fabricating self and others, we generate attachment and aversion.” ~Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche