Tonglen for Jesse
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Tonglen for Jesse
Jesse, I hope you're okay...
I was wondering if I could extend an invitation to anyone interested to do a Tonglen for Jesse? (and all who are stricken with depression, mental illness, or other overwhelming problems).
I'm new to the practice. Perhaps someone could suggest a way to organize this and perhaps provide more information about the subject if possible?
May any merit go to the benefit of all beings.
I was wondering if I could extend an invitation to anyone interested to do a Tonglen for Jesse? (and all who are stricken with depression, mental illness, or other overwhelming problems).
I'm new to the practice. Perhaps someone could suggest a way to organize this and perhaps provide more information about the subject if possible?
May any merit go to the benefit of all beings.
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My path is largely based around Ch'an so I am unskilled and somewhat ignorant of Tibetan practices, though from what I have just read it sounds not dissimilar to what I have been doing, which is acknowledging the suffering in the world on an in-breath, and extending my love to as many as I can imagine on the out-breath.
If I am doing something wrong could someone please instruct me a little (I have no teacher here).
I too hope that Jesse is okay.
If I am doing something wrong could someone please instruct me a little (I have no teacher here).
I too hope that Jesse is okay.
“Not till your thoughts cease all their branching here and there, not till you abandon all thoughts of seeking for something, not till your mind is motionless as wood or stone, will you be on the right road to the Gate.”
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Tonglen is quite similar (in its basic aspects) to Theravada metta meditation and to the practice you are describing Qing Tian.
TAYATHA OM BEKANDZE BEKANDZE MAHA BEKANDZE RAJA SAMUDGATE SOHA
May all beings be healed of their mental and physical illnesses and suffering.
TAYATHA OM BEKANDZE BEKANDZE MAHA BEKANDZE RAJA SAMUDGATE SOHA
May all beings be healed of their mental and physical illnesses and suffering.
"My religion is not deceiving myself."
Jetsun Milarepa 1052-1135 CE
"Butchers, prostitutes, those guilty of the five most heinous crimes, outcasts, the underprivileged: all are utterly the substance of existence and nothing other than total bliss."
The Supreme Source - The Kunjed Gyalpo
The Fundamental Tantra of Dzogchen Semde
Jetsun Milarepa 1052-1135 CE
"Butchers, prostitutes, those guilty of the five most heinous crimes, outcasts, the underprivileged: all are utterly the substance of existence and nothing other than total bliss."
The Supreme Source - The Kunjed Gyalpo
The Fundamental Tantra of Dzogchen Semde
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I'm glad you opened this thread. I feel sad, since Jesse made his last unhappy posting and I do Tonglen for him since one month already.
I'm not sure, if I'm allowed to describe it here how I do it.
When I learned about Tonglen, first I tried to practise it from a description in a book - but I couldn't do it right. It was very uncomfotable for me and I stopped that. Then later I visited a lecture about Tonglen. The Lama explained much about giving from the heart and we made many meditative exercises on giving. At last we practised Tonglen together - and THEN I understood the mental requirements for giving & taking (= Tonglen). The Lamas presence thaught much more about it than the book. It was like a plug was released from my heart.
It is a very joyfull practise for me now. And it makes me sad, that this joy couldn't make it over the ocean to rescue Jesse.
I'm not sure, if I'm allowed to describe it here how I do it.
When I learned about Tonglen, first I tried to practise it from a description in a book - but I couldn't do it right. It was very uncomfotable for me and I stopped that. Then later I visited a lecture about Tonglen. The Lama explained much about giving from the heart and we made many meditative exercises on giving. At last we practised Tonglen together - and THEN I understood the mental requirements for giving & taking (= Tonglen). The Lamas presence thaught much more about it than the book. It was like a plug was released from my heart.
It is a very joyfull practise for me now. And it makes me sad, that this joy couldn't make it over the ocean to rescue Jesse.
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The practice of Tonglen is part of the Atisha's teaching called seven points to train the mind. You should not take a realistic attitude, you should keep in mind the teachings on emptiness. So you know that the suffering of all beings is something illusory and it will not really affect you. Thus 'breathing in' you get all the suffering and negative karma created by negative emotions, breathing out you dedicate all your merit and good karma. My favorite book about the subject is the Shamar Rinpoche's The Path to Awakening. This is my favorite practice, I'm always trying to practice it during the day.
"People these days use whatever little dharma they know to augment afflictive emotion, and then engender tremendous pride and conceit over it. They teach the Dharma without taming their own minds. But as with a river rock , not even a hair’s tip of benefit penetrates the other people. Even worse, incorrigible people [are attracted] to this dharma that increases conflict. When individuals who could be tamed by the Dharma encounter such incorrigible, their desire for the sacred Dharma is lost. It is not the fault of the Dharma; it is the fault of individuals." Machik Labdron prophecy.
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I haven't been a member here for long, so I didn't know him well, though I've seen his other unhappy posts. I feel like I should do something too, since I have my own mental health issues that have led me into some pretty unhappy places. I've had a clinical depression that led to me feeling "passive" suicidal thoughts (i.e. "I really wish I would just die" vs. "I'm going to kill myself." - big difference, but still really scary to me looking back on it). I have Aspergers syndrome, so sorting out what's going on in other's heads is difficult for me (this is why we get accused of having no empathy or compassion. We do. It's just hard for us to know when those around us need our sympathy). But when someone makes such a desperate, emotional plea as Jesse did, Aspies such as myself are really, really hit hard.
I can't do Tonglen, since I don't know how, but would reciting the nembutsu be appropriate? I will also specifically keep Jesse in mind when I do my offerings in the morning.
I can't do Tonglen, since I don't know how, but would reciting the nembutsu be appropriate? I will also specifically keep Jesse in mind when I do my offerings in the morning.
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Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever. - GANDHI
I am a delicate feminine flower!!!!
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Redfaery wrote:I haven't been a member here for long, so I didn't know him well, though I've seen his other unhappy posts. I feel like I should do something too, since I have my own mental health issues that have led me into some pretty unhappy places. I've had a clinical depression that led to me feeling "passive" suicidal thoughts (i.e. "I really wish I would just die" vs. "I'm going to kill myself." - big difference, but still really scary to me looking back on it). I have Aspergers syndrome, so sorting out what's going on in other's heads is difficult for me (this is why we get accused of having no empathy or compassion. We do. It's just hard for us to know when those around us need our sympathy). But when someone makes such a desperate, emotional plea as Jesse did, Aspies such as myself are really, really hit hard.
I can't do Tonglen, since I don't know how, but would reciting the nembutsu be appropriate? I will also specifically keep Jesse in mind when I do my offerings in the morning.
Tonglen is really easy to do and requires no initiation or anything like that. If you want good explanatory notes I recommend this book:
http://wisdompubs.org/book/dispel-misery-world" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;
It's pretty heavy but great stuff, there is also this site on the 59 Lojong slogans, which includes stuff on exchanging self and other - Tonglen.
http://lojongmindtraining.com/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;
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I second that. And, even when a need for sympathy is perceived, there may be frustration that nothing can be done to help - perhaps from underestimating the power of 'a shoulder to cry on'Redfaery wrote:But when someone makes such a desperate, emotional plea as Jesse did, Aspies such as myself are really, really hit hard.
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I wouldn't say prayers do nothing. Due to a bunch of strange circumstances I've ended up out of a very volatile situation. My intended suicide ended up improving my circumstances, and am now living in a much better, though different place, and away from drugs.
I will likely be taking a break from this forum for a while. I thank all for their prayers, they didn't get lost in the mail.
I will likely be taking a break from this forum for a while. I thank all for their prayers, they didn't get lost in the mail.
Thus shall ye think of all this fleeting world:
A star at dawn, a bubble in a stream;
A flash of lightning in a summer cloud,
A flickering lamp, a phantom, and a dream.
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Thank you for telling this!Jesse wrote:I wouldn't say prayers do nothing. Due to a bunch of strange circumstances I've ended up out of a very volatile situation. My intended suicide ended up improving my circumstances, and am now living in a much better, though different place, and away from drugs.
I will likely be taking a break from this forum for a while. I thank all for their prayers, they didn't get lost in the mail.
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It fills my heart with joy to know that you are well, Jesse.
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Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever. - GANDHI
I am a delicate feminine flower!!!!
Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever. - GANDHI
I am a delicate feminine flower!!!!
Re: Tonglen for Jesse
Jesse,
“Not till your thoughts cease all their branching here and there, not till you abandon all thoughts of seeking for something, not till your mind is motionless as wood or stone, will you be on the right road to the Gate.”
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Jesse wrote:I wouldn't say prayers do nothing. Due to a bunch of strange circumstances I've ended up out of a very volatile situation. My intended suicide ended up improving my circumstances, and am now living in a much better, though different place, and away from drugs.
I will likely be taking a break from this forum for a while. I thank all for their prayers, they didn't get lost in the mail.
Glad to hear it.
Meditate upon Bodhicitta when afflicted by disease
Meditate upon Bodhicitta when sad
Meditate upon Bodhicitta when suffering occurs
Meditate upon Bodhicitta when you are scared
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Meditate upon Bodhicitta when sad
Meditate upon Bodhicitta when suffering occurs
Meditate upon Bodhicitta when you are scared
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Way to go, Jesse!Jesse wrote:I wouldn't say prayers do nothing. Due to a bunch of strange circumstances I've ended up out of a very volatile situation. My intended suicide ended up improving my circumstances, and am now living in a much better, though different place, and away from drugs.
I will likely be taking a break from this forum for a while. I thank all for their prayers, they didn't get lost in the mail.
Keep up the good momentum!!
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Jesse wrote:I wouldn't say prayers do nothing. Due to a bunch of strange circumstances I've ended up out of a very volatile situation. My intended suicide ended up improving my circumstances, and am now living in a much better, though different place, and away from drugs.
I will likely be taking a break from this forum for a while. I thank all for their prayers, they didn't get lost in the mail.
Glad to hear it! Be well.
Namo tassa bhagavato arahato samma sambuddhassa
Namo tassa bhagavato arahato samma sambuddhassa
Namo tassa bhagavato arahato samma sambuddhassa
Namo tassa bhagavato arahato samma sambuddhassa
Namo tassa bhagavato arahato samma sambuddhassa
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Excellent!Jesse wrote:I wouldn't say prayers do nothing. Due to a bunch of strange circumstances I've ended up out of a very volatile situation. My intended suicide ended up improving my circumstances, and am now living in a much better, though different place, and away from drugs.
I will likely be taking a break from this forum for a while. I thank all for their prayers, they didn't get lost in the mail.
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Re: Tonglen for Jesse
I'm glad you're okay, Jesse. Take care of yourself.
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Way to go Jesse, I am so happy to hear this.
be well
linda
Not last night,
not this morning,
melon flowers bloomed.
~ Bassho
not this morning,
melon flowers bloomed.
~ Bassho