there are those who feel they must be gentle. and there are those who feel other expressions have a higher priority. the admin on this forum wrote in the forum rules that we must:
the dear monk, prince and buddha sidhartha gautama spoke about this in the instructions on right speech, which paint a picture of almost exclusively saying things which are pleasing to others, which is a groundwork for gentleness, and very rarely getting into the territory of telling someone what you think they need to hear, which they do not want to hear.use a tone of voice that is pleasing, kind, and gentle
so my question for you, is this perfection of gentleness part of your practice? how do you personally develop it? do you have any experiences of successes or failures?
speaking for myself, i am like a glass prism. sometimes i am clear, sometimes i am not. and i walk through life, daily, like that. and when i am unclear, i can stumble forwards in fear or with strong desire to climb something, and it is when i am unclear but trying to see, or just seeing and trying to communicate that my gentleness practice is in part or completely side-stepped, and i can still have some positive effect, to some degree, but then, my behavior can, and often does, become a cause of suffering in myself and others, that is quite clear.