Stewart wrote:...
Thanks for that advice Yoda
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You have a pre-established feeling towards someone, therefore whatever they do comes across as negative and wrong, but really it's your own mind causing an issue. This is what I meant. Standard buddhism
As for "inventing phrases", there is nothing wrong with translating a concept hard to describe into some terminology that makes sense to oneself.. We all do it all the time
The trick is to keep breathing.