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by Joseph
Sat Aug 10, 2019 3:55 am
Forum: Media
Topic: Music time
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Views: 239879

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by Joseph
Sat Aug 10, 2019 3:44 am
Forum: Media
Topic: Music time
Replies: 2677
Views: 239879

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by Joseph
Sat Aug 10, 2019 3:38 am
Forum: Media
Topic: Music time
Replies: 2677
Views: 239879

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by Joseph
Thu May 30, 2019 11:57 am
Forum: Zen
Topic: anti-"Hinayana" bias in Zen (and Mahayana in general)
Replies: 168
Views: 5905

Re: anti-"Hinayana" bias in Zen (and Mahayana in general)

I think it was DJKR who said that the Heart Sutra is actually praising the the shravaka and pratyekabuddha , as it shows that they realised something ... Where as we look down on them and don't actually realise anything! You can still view that as a back-handed compliment. I guess as long as we work...
by Joseph
Mon May 27, 2019 4:47 am
Forum: Media
Topic: Music time
Replies: 2677
Views: 239879

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by Joseph
Fri May 24, 2019 8:47 am
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: The Everflowing Nectar of Bodhicitta
Replies: 2
Views: 263

Re: The Everflowing Nectar of Bodhicitta

These are teachings Lama Zopa Rinpoche gave on the eight verses in Hobart in 2018. I believe The Everflowing Nectar of Bodhichitta was handed out and Rinpoche had intended to give an initiation based on it but ran out of time. I'm sure there are transcripts available as well. https://www.youtube.co...
by Joseph
Thu May 23, 2019 1:22 pm
Forum: Media
Topic: Music time
Replies: 2677
Views: 239879

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by Joseph
Sun May 19, 2019 1:55 pm
Forum: Media
Topic: Music time
Replies: 2677
Views: 239879

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by Joseph
Sun May 19, 2019 8:54 am
Forum: Ethical Conduct
Topic: Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?
Replies: 22
Views: 1284

Re: Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?

Chogyal Namkhai Norbu . :)

I'm not a very good student though . :tantrum:

Hopefully I can find some markers throughout this forum :)
by Joseph
Sat May 18, 2019 3:59 am
Forum: Ethical Conduct
Topic: Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?
Replies: 22
Views: 1284

Re: Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?

Great, good to hear, closure to some extent for you. So where does this leave you? You have a practice, sangha, etc? Thank you . . I'm a student of ChNN . I live in a relatively remote part of the world , so there is a 3-5 person Sangha in my state. I'm hoping to catch up with them soon. My main pr...
by Joseph
Fri May 17, 2019 3:47 am
Forum: Ethical Conduct
Topic: Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?
Replies: 22
Views: 1284

Re: Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?

My opinion generally concurs with all the wise postings above. As far as I know, reasonable self-defense is permitted in many schools of Buddhism; in line with avoiding "idiot compassion" as stated above; Otherwise it might just end up encouraging further bad behaviours. 3 years is way too long to ...
by Joseph
Thu May 16, 2019 2:31 am
Forum: Ethical Conduct
Topic: Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?
Replies: 22
Views: 1284

Re: Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?

In a way I just wanted to pay her out an amount so I could be 'done' with it , and then could focus on practice etc ... You're giving a crazy person money and expecting them to leave you alone? I think your practice should involve getting emotionally healthy with regards to this issue, to be honest...
by Joseph
Thu May 16, 2019 2:26 am
Forum: Ethical Conduct
Topic: Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?
Replies: 22
Views: 1284

Re: Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?

Looks to me like an attempt to draw attention to herself. And you are engaging in that process. Manipulative people have a funny way of going away when you stop feeding them attention. Try it. Yes I think your right . The conversation started of amicably , but then descended from there.... In any c...
by Joseph
Wed May 15, 2019 12:40 pm
Forum: Ethical Conduct
Topic: Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?
Replies: 22
Views: 1284

Re: Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?

I'd be tempted to give her something, though in a way this rewards her awful behaviour. Not the $3k she demands but some fraction, perhaps $750. That was you do acknowledge your part in the whole mess. But maybe it's not the right thing to do, not sure. I did send her an amount that of $500 , half ...
by Joseph
Wed May 15, 2019 11:02 am
Forum: Ethical Conduct
Topic: Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?
Replies: 22
Views: 1284

Re: Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?

Absolutely, I am easy to guilt trip! Always have been :crying: That's something to work on. It's not a good sign to be easy to emotionally manipulate. You need to work on boundaries - it will make you a better person, for yourself and others. This is no doubt compounded in my mind by the fact that ...
by Joseph
Wed May 15, 2019 10:14 am
Forum: Ethical Conduct
Topic: Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?
Replies: 22
Views: 1284

Re: Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?

As for feeling guilty for not living up to the aspiration of Bodhichitta, this is natural since we are still training after all..we can't pretend to have perfect compassion when we've only recently began cultivating it. Guilt can be helpful or unhelpful. Helpful when it motivates us to practice and...
by Joseph
Wed May 15, 2019 10:08 am
Forum: Ethical Conduct
Topic: Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?
Replies: 22
Views: 1284

Re: Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?

If I can be honest, this thread makes you sound easy to guilt-trip, so you might not be making the most rational assessment of the situation - whether Buddhist or not. Absolutely, I am easy to guilt trip! Always have been :crying: . Used to give my pocket money to beggars if they asked. ! I'm tryin...
by Joseph
Wed May 15, 2019 2:26 am
Forum: Ethical Conduct
Topic: Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?
Replies: 22
Views: 1284

Re: Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?

I should add that , I was ( and still am ) thinking about paying what she wants - I feel guilty cultivating good intentions/relative bodhicitta when it feels like I can't live up to it - I feel guilty being present (??) as it feels like I'm minimizing the result, obviously this feeling of guilt the ...
by Joseph
Tue May 14, 2019 12:51 am
Forum: Media
Topic: Music time
Replies: 2677
Views: 239879

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by Joseph
Tue May 14, 2019 12:37 am
Forum: Ethical Conduct
Topic: Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?
Replies: 22
Views: 1284

Giving, reinstating or being taken advantage of ?

Hello, and apologies for the mundane. To sum it up , my ex-gf has recently contacted me believing I owe her money. Now this relationship ended over three years ago (were together for 3 and a half years), when I (and her) were not in the best places (drug abuse....and apathy)... she had some inherita...

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