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Sat May 23, 2020 7:23 pm
Forum: Ethical Conduct
Topic: Filing a police report against spouse for domestic violence as a Buddhist?
Replies: 6
Views: 471

Re: Filing a police report against spouse for domestic violence as a Buddhist?

Hello my friends, I have a dilemma where I try to find words on how to act as a Buddhist when being exposed to domestic violence. There’s been a police report filed against the spouse, where I am struggling on the thought of it becoming a revengeful act doing so. I mean the spouse no harm, I only w...
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Fri May 22, 2020 6:37 pm
Forum: Discovering Mahayana Buddhism
Topic: Being careful about worship
Replies: 6
Views: 334

Re: Being careful about worship

The title may be misleading but should one be careful to not see Buddha as a kind of God who brings us to enlightenment and nirvana if we follow him like leader? I read one youtube post that said something like, ''be your own teacher is the main thought of Buddha". I don't know what I am when it co...
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Thu Feb 20, 2020 6:52 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Starting meditation/sitting group/class at work?
Replies: 16
Views: 1819

Re: Starting meditation/sitting group/class at work?

My former employer had mindfulness in the morning. However, the employer was really toxic and had a high turn over. I now view workplace meditation with skepticism. Instead addressing issues like low wages, and abusive clients, they really made seem like it's the employee's responsibility to just d...
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Thu Feb 20, 2020 3:27 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Starting meditation/sitting group/class at work?
Replies: 16
Views: 1819

Re: Starting meditation/sitting group/class at work?

My former employer had mindfulness in the morning. However, the employer was really toxic and had a high turn over. I now view workplace meditation with skepticism. Instead addressing issues like low wages, and abusive clients, they really made seem like it's the employee's responsibility to just de...
by shoe
Thu Feb 20, 2020 2:44 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Advice- Getting a bigger place, MIL is kondoing and unloading unwanted stuff
Replies: 1
Views: 490

Advice- Getting a bigger place, MIL is kondoing and unloading unwanted stuff

So some background info. My mother has a hoarding problem.There were rooms that were totally unusable when I was growing up and she would rack up bills. I would sneak out old toys in my backpack to Goodwill because she would make me keep almost all of it if I asked. So naturally, I have an aversion ...
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Sat Feb 01, 2020 7:55 pm
Forum: Engaged Buddhism
Topic: Why not more Farms and Soup kitchens for Buddhist dharma centers, instead of money?
Replies: 56
Views: 7487

Re: Why not more Farms and Soup kitchens for Buddhist dharma centers, instead of money?

Most temples that I have been to ether grow their own food or lay people come in with a food donation for the sangha ( there is usually a free meal for everyone that attends.) However, since I live in Oregon we have very strict land use laws so it's not unusual to be in a midsize city and have farml...
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Sat Feb 01, 2020 6:58 pm
Forum: Mahāyāna Buddhism
Topic: Punk?
Replies: 12
Views: 1077

Re: Punk?

Do I understand correctly that Tantra (not to mention Dzogchen ( + Dzen) ) was perceived by sutric contemporaries as something similar to punk music in the mid-70s? That is, as a kind of rabble in the eyes of the sutric establishment. There is a dharma punk group. Though they had a fall out with th...
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Tue Jan 07, 2020 6:10 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Feeling lack of community, advice?
Replies: 19
Views: 1075

Re: Feeling lack of community, advice?

I am on a similar journey, except I have plenty of communities nearby so I'm in an easier situation. I am part of a couple communities that help each other and share resources - I find there are many of them, but that may be due to living near a city. However, the ones I am part of are artist-centr...
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Mon Jan 06, 2020 6:46 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Feeling lack of community, advice?
Replies: 19
Views: 1075

Re: Feeling lack of community, advice?

Volunteer your time at a charity. Don’t forget to do the service with bodhicitta motivation and to dedicate the merit when you’re done. If it’s a christian charity just keep that on the down low. Win-win. Visited a nearby synagogue over the weekend. The Rabbi is cool with me doing volunteer work wi...
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Sun Jan 05, 2020 7:10 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Feeling lack of community, advice?
Replies: 19
Views: 1075

Re: Feeling lack of community, advice?

We're social creatures. If there are no local Dharma events locally, you could look for any online sanghas programmes of forums but you could also look to see what other non dharmic but still wholesome social meet-ups occur nearer to you. Have a look around - could be nature walks, hobby clubs and ...
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Sun Jan 05, 2020 5:13 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Feeling lack of community, advice?
Replies: 19
Views: 1075

Re: Feeling lack of community, advice?

PeterC wrote:
Sun Jan 05, 2020 7:46 am
There’s a difference between being alone and feeling lonely. Worth investigating why you feel that way.
Yeah, probably because it's not much of a choice. Back when I lived in a bigger city, I didn't have this problem even though I was alone even more than now.
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Sat Jan 04, 2020 9:21 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Feeling lack of community, advice?
Replies: 19
Views: 1075

Feeling lack of community, advice?

Hello,
I live about an hour away from my temple, so it feels like I lack community for most of the week.There are a few meetups, but not many since I am kinda in the middle on nowhere. Does anyone have any ideas about what I can do to feel more socially active around home that isn't a bar? Thanks!
by shoe
Sat Dec 28, 2019 2:28 am
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hello from OR
Replies: 11
Views: 802

Re: Hello from OR

Hi!
by shoe
Fri Dec 27, 2019 2:44 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hi!
Replies: 5
Views: 590

Re: Hi!

Welcome to DW!
by shoe
Fri Dec 27, 2019 2:43 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hello from OR
Replies: 11
Views: 802

Re: Hello from OR

LOL, Hi back and thanks!
by shoe
Fri Dec 27, 2019 5:07 am
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hello from OR
Replies: 11
Views: 802

Re: Hello from OR

Hello, thanks from Salem!
by shoe
Thu Dec 26, 2019 3:46 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hello from OR
Replies: 11
Views: 802

Re: Hello from OR

Thanks! :smile:
by shoe
Thu Dec 26, 2019 7:30 am
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hello from OR
Replies: 11
Views: 802

Re: Hello from OR

Thank you!
by shoe
Thu Dec 26, 2019 3:55 am
Forum: Jodo Shin Shu
Topic: Why Jodo Shin Shu (Shinran) and Not Jodo Shu (Honen)?
Replies: 7
Views: 1403

Re: Why Jodo Shin Shu (Shinran) and Not Jodo Shu (Honen)?

Thank you, I was wondering this myself!
by shoe
Thu Dec 26, 2019 1:59 am
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hello from OR
Replies: 11
Views: 802

Hello from OR

Hello from Oregon!

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