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by flavio81
Thu Jul 09, 2015 6:10 am
Forum: Wellness, Diet and Fitness
Topic: The harms of Masturbation and Porn
Replies: 487
Views: 44037

Re: The harms of Masturbation and Porn

It's midnight, I'm alone with nothing to do, time for you-know-what. Yay!!

Seriously, I just recalled a phrase by either Tilopa or Naropa:

"The problem is not enjoyment. The problem is grasping. Cut through your attachment, son."

Pleasure is not a problem per se.
by flavio81
Wed Jul 08, 2015 9:02 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet and Fitness
Topic: The harms of Masturbation and Porn
Replies: 487
Views: 44037

Re: The harms of Masturbation and Porn

I agree with Malcolm.

As far as I know, buddhism's "holistic" goal, as a whole, is to overcome ego. Buddhism is not exactly about telling other people what actions are "bad" or "wrong". To overcome ego there is more than one buddhist path and any advice will depend on such path.
by flavio81
Fri Apr 17, 2015 11:15 pm
Forum: Dzogchen
Topic: How to set a Longde daily practice?
Replies: 14
Views: 2069

Re: How to set a Longde daily practice?

After ChNN's last retreat, the one on Longsal Longde, I am even more interested to try and add Longde to my practice routine, Longde seems to be fantastic actually, a supercallifragilistically flabberghasting boon to our practice. Just my opinion. But all transitory and perhaps distracting enthusia...
by flavio81
Thu Aug 29, 2013 8:55 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Starting to Explore Religion specifically Buddhism?
Replies: 3
Views: 482

Re: Starting to Explore Religion specifically Buddhism?

angelliy wrote:Starting to Explore Religion specifically Buddhism?
You can search this forum for book recommendations. This can be a starting point.

:namaste:
by flavio81
Wed Aug 28, 2013 9:44 pm
Forum: Dzogchen
Topic: Dzogchen VS Mahamudra..why?
Replies: 11
Views: 1659

Re: Dzogchen VS Mahamudra..why?

Greg, yes I was generalizing a bit. But while I somewhat agree with your previous post that its not a good idea to intellectually get caught up in distinctions it is equally important to have a clear understanding of those distinctions because as most here know it is so easy to get caught up in one...
by flavio81
Tue Aug 27, 2013 4:21 am
Forum: Creative Writing
Topic: K̶u̶n̶g̶ ̶f̶u̶ Buddhist culture in America
Replies: 15
Views: 2306

Re: K̶u̶n̶g̶ ̶f̶u̶ Buddhist culture in America

But the truth is that the concept of "expedient means" has been overused and abused, by followers . It's high time we started calling a spade a spade. Well, if you like "calling a spade a spade" and establishing how "the truth" should be presented, then you will like Fundamentalist Christian Evange...
by flavio81
Thu Aug 22, 2013 3:13 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Why is Tibetan Buddhism more popular?
Replies: 150
Views: 16594

Re: Why is Tibetan Buddhism more popular?

Maybe where you live, people get into TB because "marketing and merchandise". TB is normally well marketed it seems. Here in Singapore they take out whole magazine pages to advertise such and such a Rinpoche is giving such and such a rare empowerment. The merchandise aspect of TB can be seen in Ind...
by flavio81
Wed Aug 21, 2013 11:05 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Why is Tibetan Buddhism more popular?
Replies: 150
Views: 16594

Re: Why is Tibetan Buddhism more popular?

What i mean is that it encompasses different levels and different teachings, and each one of it is of more appeal (and benefits best) a certain type of person and/or a certain circumstance in life. This is what i meant with "all colors and sizes". I think the marketing and merchandise are what real...
by flavio81
Wed Aug 21, 2013 4:54 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Why is Tibetan Buddhism more popular?
Replies: 150
Views: 16594

Re: Why is Tibetan Buddhism more popular?

In other words, it comes in all colors and sizes so you can find one that fits best. Yes, it is a pretty customizable religion. As far as merchandise goes, too, you have ample selection to chose from. You can get all kinds of paintings, vajras, bells, Tibetan outfits, incense, books and so on. If y...
by flavio81
Wed Aug 21, 2013 4:48 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Why is Tibetan Buddhism more popular?
Replies: 150
Views: 16594

Re: Why is Tibetan Buddhism more popular?

My own two cents for what it's worth. Basically it comes down to the Tibetan diaspora. Truly amazing masters of the TB tradition were scattered to Europe and America. If this dispersal hadn't happened, Tibet would still be a insular country and far less would be known in the West about TB. Yes, i t...
by flavio81
Wed Aug 21, 2013 4:19 pm
Forum: Media
Topic: Sex and Death on the Road to Nirvana
Replies: 15
Views: 1863

Re: Sex and Death on the Road to Nirvana

Stuff like this is why I don't suggest to people to become Buddhists. I suggest people not to go into Tibetan Buddhism. Unless they really, really feel attracted to it. There are way too many pitfalls, too many ways to fall into the "spiritual materialism" trap, charlatans out there... Your sanga w...
by flavio81
Wed Aug 21, 2013 4:15 pm
Forum: Media
Topic: Sex and Death on the Road to Nirvana
Replies: 15
Views: 1863

Re: Sex and Death on the Road to Nirvana

http://www.rollingstone.com/culture/news/sex-and-death-on-the-road-to-nirvana-20130606 Everything began when he was officially disapproved by his own masters and monastery. You can't be a master of vajrayana if you have no lineage (or no respect to your lineage, or to your master). You can then sti...
by flavio81
Thu Aug 15, 2013 6:28 pm
Forum: Prayers and Aspirations
Topic: Pornography addiction
Replies: 12
Views: 2404

Re: Pornography addiction

maxaroni13 wrote:I need help quitting pornography I would love to be celibate someone please provide me with prayers I can do aspirations or resources or just encouragement Ty namaste
I think this thread may be very, very useful for you:

http://www.dharmawheel.net/viewtopic.php?f=111&t=13461
by flavio81
Thu Aug 15, 2013 6:27 pm
Forum: Prayers and Aspirations
Topic: Pornography addiction
Replies: 12
Views: 2404

Re: Pornography addiction

gad rgyangs wrote:when I first got into Buddhism many moons ago, I wanted to set up an altar. I had no pictures or thangkas of Tara, so I hung a Playboy centerfold over my altar. To me, she was Tara. its all in the way you look at it.
Just make sure the girl is green-skinned...
by flavio81
Thu Aug 15, 2013 6:25 pm
Forum: Creative Writing
Topic: K̶u̶n̶g̶ ̶f̶u̶ Buddhist culture in America
Replies: 15
Views: 2306

Re: K̶u̶n̶g̶ ̶f̶u̶ Buddhist culture in America

I've noticed a few Buddhist teachers that have the pomp and mannerisms of a hollywood kung fu master. That is your impression, not a fact or an objective assessment. A teacher can use skillful ways that would appear ridiculous to others. Yet, he might probably be doing it so it can be of benefit to...
by flavio81
Thu Aug 15, 2013 6:18 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: I just want to hear your opinion. No offenses please,
Replies: 54
Views: 5456

Re: I just want to hear your opinion. No offenses please,

If you are a follower of Vishnu, worshipping Buddha as an avatar of Vishnu, then the abovementioned quotes are 100% true (within the specific religious framework). If you are a Buddhist, then realistically, the abovementioned quotes shouldn't concern you in the least. They are basically irrelevant ...
by flavio81
Tue Aug 06, 2013 4:52 pm
Forum: Media
Topic: Oprah
Replies: 15
Views: 1743

Re: Oprah

It is disappointing that she didn't recommend spiritual books of a higher calibre. Exactly. I know it's just my perception, but i can't help but see Oprah as the responsible for many quacks being popular on the US -- Deepak Chopra, and Eckhart Tolle. What's next? Osho books? ut I definitely see at ...
by flavio81
Tue Jul 30, 2013 5:53 pm
Forum: Dzogchen
Topic: Kunjed Gyalpo:The Supreme Source
Replies: 23
Views: 3846

Re: Kunjed Gyalpo:The Supreme Source

I'm still reading the book (the one annotated by Chogyal Namkhai Norbu and translated by Adriano Clemente). Mine is in spanish. On my mom's house we have the same book (The Supreme Source) but in english. I think this translation wasn't Jim's. Anyway, Jim Valby is a great person and teacher and i'm ...
by flavio81
Sun Jul 28, 2013 9:53 pm
Forum: Ethical Conduct
Topic: Celibacy
Replies: 294
Views: 27411

Re: Celibacy

It's unfortunate that some women feel they don't have much to offer other than their bodily attributes. Compassion arises when I comtemplate this deeply. This is the only way some know how to attract men, and many men will respond only to women of this sort. And this hit me as well. Good posting.
by flavio81
Sun Jul 28, 2013 9:49 pm
Forum: Meditation
Topic: Stopping thoughts?
Replies: 42
Views: 5187

Re: Stopping thoughts?

PadmaVonSamba wrote:Stopping thoughts is easy. The first thing you have to
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