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by flowerbudh
Mon Jan 27, 2014 5:05 am
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Why do you think being present is so important?
Replies: 5
Views: 1471

Why do you think being present is so important?

I've found that to truly heal my emotional ails, I have to give myself my undivided attention, instead of other people who won't return it. Why do we crave so much to be recognized? To be loved, even?
by flowerbudh
Mon Dec 02, 2013 12:20 am
Forum: Meditation
Topic: How to remain still in deep meditative states
Replies: 8
Views: 2972

How to remain still in deep meditative states

Clearing my head isn't the biggest struggle for me during meditation, staying still is! My legs jump up at every little noise or discomfort. The deeper I go, the more my nerve endings resist... it's like they're screaming, "No! Don't transcend sensory reality." Hehe. Help?
by flowerbudh
Mon Dec 02, 2013 12:07 am
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Anatta experience ?
Replies: 13
Views: 2700

Re: Anatta experience ?

When I first experience anatta about a year ago, I thought I was having a derealization episode. How did you have yours?
by flowerbudh
Mon Dec 02, 2013 12:00 am
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Too much karma?
Replies: 11
Views: 2111

Re: Too much karma?

Oh! As for dealing with depression, look into DBT and radical acceptance. ;)
by flowerbudh
Sun Dec 01, 2013 11:55 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Too much karma?
Replies: 11
Views: 2111

Re: Too much karma?

Dearest Emma, Let me first say: my heart goes out to you. Although I am only 15, I too have experienced the suffering that comes from having a dysfunctional family, financial struggles, depression, anxiety, feeling unloved and unwanted, not feeling beautiful, and wanting to just give up. While we ma...
by flowerbudh
Fri Nov 29, 2013 7:00 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Locality of nibbanna
Replies: 41
Views: 7216

Re: Locality of nibbanna

takso, will you tell me more about the inward force i.e. Awakening?
by flowerbudh
Thu Nov 28, 2013 9:03 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: BASIS FOR KARMA / REBIRTH
Replies: 197
Views: 27598

Re: BASIS FOR KARMA / REBIRTH

Will someone define awareness for me? Is one in a coma aware?
by flowerbudh
Thu Nov 28, 2013 7:59 pm
Forum: Help Required
Topic: Dealing with anger
Replies: 20
Views: 4837

Re: Dealing with anger

Remember this: the other person is you. I love the Buddha's quote, "holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned," because it exemplifies this perfectly. During this time of struggle is the perfect time to p...
by flowerbudh
Wed Nov 27, 2013 6:48 am
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Struggling with the Concept of No/Non-Self/Emptiness
Replies: 95
Views: 14866

Re: Struggling with the Concept of No/Non-Self/Emptiness

This was a troubling concept for me as well when I first came across it. No need to fear, however, for it simply means that everything is void of a single constituent property. So your "self" is really a collection of the five skandhas, which others have mentioned. Through quantum physics,...
by flowerbudh
Wed Nov 27, 2013 4:53 am
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Reintroducing Myself, Have Been Away a Long Time
Replies: 3
Views: 1256

Re: Reintroducing Myself, Have Been Away a Long Time

Warm greetings, dear one!
by flowerbudh
Sun Nov 17, 2013 10:21 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Locality of nibbanna
Replies: 41
Views: 7216

Re: Locality of nibbanna

Might we all be in nirvana already and we just don't know?
by flowerbudh
Sun Nov 17, 2013 6:41 am
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Locality of nibbanna
Replies: 41
Views: 7216

Re: Locality of nibbanna

According to BuddhaNet (idk if this is a reliable source or not): "It is a dimension transcending time and space and thus is difficult to talk about or even think about. Words and thoughts being only suited to describe the time-space dimension. But because Nirvana is beyond time, there is no mo...
by flowerbudh
Sun Nov 17, 2013 6:38 am
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Locality of nibbanna
Replies: 41
Views: 7216

Re: Locality of nibbanna

Oh. I did not know this. Tell me more! :)
by flowerbudh
Sun Nov 17, 2013 3:44 am
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Locality of nibbanna
Replies: 41
Views: 7216

Locality of nibbanna

Nirvana, I assume, transcends time and space, so in that sense, can one who attains it still accurately be called a 'human' being, one who dwells in this Earth? Or in this universe, for that matter, where nothing is permanent?
by flowerbudh
Sun Nov 10, 2013 6:37 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: How to love, accept yourself if you can't?
Replies: 19
Views: 3671

Re: How to love, accept yourself if you can't?

And how can I do that? By exploring the feeling deeply. Can you remember feeling loved as a child? Was your self-esteem always so low? If not, what caused the shift? You have to go deeply inside of yourself and allow everything to be remembered. It is often painful and difficult, but can be done. M...
by flowerbudh
Sun Nov 10, 2013 5:48 am
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Advice for the young layperson
Replies: 15
Views: 3189

Advice for the young layperson

Perhaps one day I will become a nun, but for now I am living in the secular world filled with the plagues of passion and ignorance. I have set my heart completely on liberating myself and all others from suffering... can any of you link me articles on how others have done this or provide your own in...
by flowerbudh
Sun Nov 10, 2013 5:39 am
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: On marriage/relationships
Replies: 13
Views: 2813

Re: On marriage/relationships

avisitor wrote: Have you dedicated your life to finding liberation and serving others??
I have, can I do this without becoming a nun?
by flowerbudh
Sat Nov 09, 2013 11:06 pm
Forum: Dharma Stories
Topic: Pay no attention
Replies: 8
Views: 3511

Re: Pay no attention

I think we can certainly learn from others faults (because really, they are ours!), but we should not condemn those imperfections in others, instead we should perfect them in ourselves.
by flowerbudh
Sat Nov 09, 2013 11:02 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: On marriage/relationships
Replies: 13
Views: 2813

On marriage/relationships

"Love" (as many in samsara understand it- coming only from others) brings suffering. What should be done? With this knowledge, should I pursue relationships but not attach myself to their outcomes? Or should I avoid them altogether?
by flowerbudh
Wed Oct 30, 2013 1:09 am
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Law of attraction?
Replies: 29
Views: 5669

Re: Law of attraction?

Karma is the closest you're gonna get, tbh, so just stick with that.

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