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by tomschwarz
Sat Apr 21, 2018 8:33 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: To be somebody, or to be nobody
Replies: 9
Views: 239

Re: To be somebody, or to be nobody

What I mean here is that, you can not 'rid' yourself of selfhood, as it's simply another thing that co-arises; rather you simply gain wisdom, and armed with that wisdom you are no longer fooled. good point. .... Also the effort thing is a bit counter-intuitive; yes it requires effort--- but that ef...
by tomschwarz
Sat Apr 21, 2018 1:05 am
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: To be somebody, or to be nobody
Replies: 9
Views: 239

Re: To be somebody, or to be nobody

Being "Somebody" is simply the natural way we perceive. We do not have to make an effort to get rid of 'yourself', as the self is already empty from the beginning. It's just a matter of seeing it. This gets back to the discussion of, "is there anything to do?" The answer is yes, the 4rth noble trut...
by tomschwarz
Thu Apr 19, 2018 8:38 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: To be somebody, or to be nobody
Replies: 9
Views: 239

To be somebody, or to be nobody

Hello friends, His holiness the Dalai Lama, over the past several years, has said, at seemingly every teaching, that he is no one special. He is a monk. Furthermore, that if he considers himself to be someone special, e.g. The Dalai Lama, he feels lonely. So he is trying to share his experience, tha...
by tomschwarz
Sun Apr 15, 2018 10:41 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Is punishment of children required?
Replies: 57
Views: 847

Re: Is punishment of children required?

... lumping together punishment, anger, and beatings.... So what happens in your scenario when you say "ect..."? the teeth are brushed with love, playfulness, and i encourage a sense of feeling your teeth, "how do they feel?", "good?", "clean?" then when it is time for "the world will show them", a...
by tomschwarz
Sun Apr 15, 2018 10:20 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Is punishment of children required?
Replies: 57
Views: 847

Re: Is punishment of children required?

Seishin wrote:
Sun Apr 15, 2018 8:30 pm
if they've been naughty. They sit in time out, even when out and about. More importantly, they get treats for good behaviour and no treats for bad behaviour.
what is "naughty". i mean in terms of buddhism, do you mean self-centered?
by tomschwarz
Sun Apr 15, 2018 10:17 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Is punishment of children required?
Replies: 57
Views: 847

Re: Is punishment of children required?

The current trend is away from punishment or over-permissiveness, and towards natural consequences, which to me makes sense. Definitely with my experiences so far in fatherhood, trying to get kids to be as independent and responsible as possible is where it's at. Instead of being autocratic and "pu...
by tomschwarz
Sat Apr 14, 2018 10:50 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Is punishment of children required?
Replies: 57
Views: 847

Is punishment of children required?

Hello friends, Spare the rod spoil the child? no. You can have a great child with no rod (and no other punishments). So hopefully I will find some people who believe in punishment and we can discuss these points. Were you punished? Did it help you to become a better Buddhist in some way? One example...
by tomschwarz
Sat Apr 14, 2018 10:37 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Is the mind bound within the mind?
Replies: 5
Views: 275

Re: Is the mind bound within the mind?

your mind is obviously not bound ... at one time 'we' were as small as bacteria-like entities that evolved into more complex forms. yes, thank you supramundane... ...so as we explore the possible origins of our minds (and or life for that matter), would you also consider our evolution to comes from...
by tomschwarz
Fri Apr 13, 2018 7:46 am
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Does anger comes from self-centered attitude?
Replies: 14
Views: 310

Re: Does anger comes from self-centered attitude?

(1)Everything we do in samsara comes from a self-centered attitude. ..... (2)What we think of as anger isn't always what is meant by anger in the Buddhist context. ..... (3)So, for example, the child breaks something at home or in the store (...) maybe the parent simply says "go to your room. no TV...
by tomschwarz
Fri Apr 13, 2018 12:14 am
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Does anger comes from self-centered attitude?
Replies: 14
Views: 310

Re: Does anger comes from self-centered attitude?

The fossil record indicates that humans have only existed for around 200,000 years, not 5 million. That is a good point... ....so lets start with 200,000 years of people dieing at the hands of cruel nature, freezing, falling, bacterial and viral infection and hunger. And then multiply that by 25 to...
by tomschwarz
Thu Apr 12, 2018 11:57 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Does anger comes from self-centered attitude?
Replies: 14
Views: 310

Re: Does anger comes from self-centered attitude?

anger is self-centred and needs to go because it is never healthy. Is it healthy to keep all your anger inside ? Where will it go ? Yes it is healthy )))) it will go away. It is much harder for children, of course... But as adults who are ready to do very serious things, we can consider Buddhist wi...
by tomschwarz
Thu Apr 12, 2018 11:45 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Is the mind bound within the mind?
Replies: 5
Views: 275

Is the mind bound within the mind?

Forever? How bound is that, if the mind has no center or edge? Hello friends, the question is about the experiences immediately following death. Is it true that our mind will be bound within itself? I mean, we often choose to/seek to divert our attention outside of our minds (videos, reading, meetin...
by tomschwarz
Wed Apr 11, 2018 2:29 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Buddhist wisdom in 3
Replies: 4
Views: 267

Re: Buddhist wisdom in 3

In some way, Buddhist guidance could be said somehow to be psychiatric guidance since misperception is perhaps a kind of temporary paranoia or confusion by which there is agitation (in different varieties=> karma-effects) and relax is not possible in movement. Since when there is a lot of agitation...
by tomschwarz
Wed Apr 11, 2018 2:24 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Love Light shine
Replies: 16
Views: 729

Re: Love Light shine

sometimes all you can think is a form of desperation that shouts you didn't want this for your child. But that frustration is a lack of integration with the true nature of your condition. Your reaction is an aggression that feels justified because you are so "at your limits" of know-how. You think ...
by tomschwarz
Wed Apr 11, 2018 2:04 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Does anger comes from self-centered attitude?
Replies: 14
Views: 310

Re: Does anger comes from self-centered attitude?

There are many people (on this forum?) who do not seek to rid themselves of anger, but rather accept that expressing anger is healthy. So let's discuss the contradiction to the statements above, that Anger is not always self centered? Does not always relate to ignorance? What if I get angry watchin...
by tomschwarz
Wed Apr 11, 2018 11:34 am
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Does anger comes from self-centered attitude?
Replies: 14
Views: 310

Does anger comes from self-centered attitude?

Hello fri ends, His Holiness the Dalai Lama of Tibet, Speaking about very painful experiences such as loosing freedom, loosing your country, and so on... ...and how Buddhist practice helps: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=anBzMLhMkhg see 11:20 "...then during these period, there is certain sort of k...
by tomschwarz
Sat Apr 07, 2018 10:43 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Intimate relationships -the "other", no self, and practice
Replies: 29
Views: 827

Re: Intimate relationships -the "other", no self, and practice

So if the world is a garden who are you? Correct answer: none of the above. You are a human. The plants mostly act on greed. You can act on love, and care for the happiness of others Ogyen. That is the whole deal here in humanity. "If you do something self centered you have wasted your time", his ho...
by tomschwarz
Sat Apr 07, 2018 10:19 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Buddhist wisdom in 3
Replies: 4
Views: 267

Re: Buddhist wisdom in 3

Confused perception need change, when no confusion, then no change is. Приветствую Вас мой друг! Right, that is clear from the part of Buddhist wisdom that is very much like psychiatry, we seek to remove dissonant mental states in favor of stable happiness. That is #3 above. What has always interes...
by tomschwarz
Fri Apr 06, 2018 6:38 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Buddhist wisdom in 3
Replies: 4
Views: 267

Buddhist wisdom in 3

Hello friends, In Buddhism practice there are three areas: ethics meditation and wisdom. About the wisdom... So there is 1) endless complexity, all kinds of things, beautiful ugly peaceful aggressive liberation in the pore, and so on, a.k.a. the "relative truth " Then 2) that can be considered the d...
by tomschwarz
Wed Apr 04, 2018 10:33 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Tree roots of endless complexity
Replies: 7
Views: 378

Re: Tree roots of endless complexity

. " This empty nature, the lack of intrinsic existence in phenomena, does not imply a blank naught in which there is nothing at all, as we find in the view of the nihilists. According to relative truth, all phenomena arise as a result of the interdependent conjunction of causes and conditions. This...