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by bcol01
Thu Jul 04, 2019 6:54 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: What is the best way to deal with a roommate who acts up (acting irritated)? Reward with attention or ignore?
Replies: 6
Views: 298

Re: What is the best way to deal with a roommate who acts up (acting irritated)? Reward with attention or ignore?

I know & I plan on moving out when my lease is up. I never should have resigned. But in the meantime, I'm struggling to figure out how to live with this person while also maintaining a compassionate stance and also not getting sucked in to their dysfunction. You guys maybe have dealt with this type ...
by bcol01
Wed Jul 03, 2019 4:45 am
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: What is the best way to deal with a roommate who acts up (acting irritated)? Reward with attention or ignore?
Replies: 6
Views: 298

What is the best way to deal with a roommate who acts up (acting irritated)? Reward with attention or ignore?

What is the best way to deal with a roommate who acts up in order to get attention? Reward with attention or ignore?

Fyi, this person is basically a narcissist.
by bcol01
Mon Jul 01, 2019 5:10 am
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: Is there anything wrong with smoking marijuana, as a Nichiren Buddhist?
Replies: 13
Views: 592

Re: Is there anything wrong with smoking marijuana, as a Nichiren Buddhist?

I wonder what caution there could be other than maybe not finding balance in things we enjoy such as marijuana, and alcohol? What do you think?
by bcol01
Fri Jun 28, 2019 4:57 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: When people shame me for being white, what should I do?
Replies: 30
Views: 921

Re: When people shame me for being white, what should I do?

No.
Grigoris wrote:
Thu Jun 27, 2019 9:10 am
bcol01 wrote:
Tue Jun 25, 2019 7:48 pm
Today actually. Not sure how to respond to someone who tells me that I should be ashamed for being white.
Out of interest: was it a white person that shamed you?
by bcol01
Tue Jun 25, 2019 7:48 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: When people shame me for being white, what should I do?
Replies: 30
Views: 921

Re: When people shame me for being white, what should I do?

Today actually. Not sure how to respond to someone who tells me that I should be ashamed for being white. You know, all the white privilege/shaming stuff going on these days. Should I be ashamed for choosing my own skin color? Taking advantage of your privilege for self gain/profit is "shameful", us...
by bcol01
Tue Jun 25, 2019 7:18 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: When people shame me for being white, what should I do?
Replies: 30
Views: 921

When people shame me for being white, what should I do?

You know, all the white privilege/shaming stuff going on these days. Should I be ashamed for choosing my own skin color?
by bcol01
Tue Jun 25, 2019 4:56 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: Any independent Nichiren Buddhists here?
Replies: 15
Views: 423

Re: Any independent Nichiren Buddhists here?

Ty Que Gassho Independent of what? I, Nichiren, am not the founder of any school, nor am I a latter-day follower of any older school. I am a priest without precepts, neither keeping the precepts nor breaking them. I am an ordinary creature like an ox or a sheep, who is neither particularly wise nor ...
by bcol01
Tue Jun 25, 2019 7:34 am
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: Any independent Nichiren Buddhists here?
Replies: 15
Views: 423

Any independent Nichiren Buddhists here?

How do you practice and what materials or books do you read? Who do you look up to?
by bcol01
Fri Jun 21, 2019 1:07 am
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: Do you practice with Nichiren Shu, SGI or Nichiren Shoshu?
Replies: 9
Views: 460

Do you practice with Nichiren Shu, SGI or Nichiren Shoshu?

May I ask, why you follow the teachings of your particular sect? The intention of my post is to learn more about the different sects of Nichiren Buddhism.

Also, if you are an independent practitioner, what led you to be one?

Thank you all for everything and I hope you are all well.

- Gassho
by bcol01
Tue Jun 18, 2019 6:06 pm
Forum: Pure Land
Topic: How do we deal with desires?
Replies: 11
Views: 415

How do we deal with desires?

And, how do we know which desires are ok?
by bcol01
Sat Jun 15, 2019 7:23 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: I'm finding it hard to make positive changes in my life
Replies: 11
Views: 398

Re: I'm finding it hard to make positive changes in my life

I agree, the aspiration is the beginning. It's very true! I am deeply grateful for all of the encouragement and support. I know that things will take time and determination. It's so easy to become discouraged but having the right perspective will help too. Thank you, really. Some things take longer ...
by bcol01
Sat Jun 15, 2019 7:18 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: I'm finding it hard to make positive changes in my life
Replies: 11
Views: 398

Re: I'm finding it hard to make positive changes in my life

Thank you for this. I completely agree. Reminds me of a book by William Woolard. I think his way of viewing the daimoku is quite similar in terms of "benefits". Thanks again my friend. The way I was encouraged was that chanting is not going to be a magic fix, that the chanting gradually leads to mor...
by bcol01
Sat Jun 15, 2019 7:16 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: I'm finding it hard to make positive changes in my life
Replies: 11
Views: 398

Re: I'm finding it hard to make positive changes in my life

Ty for your help and your encouragement. This is a very supportive community. There could be a number of reasons you're not seeing benefits. Let's work on this together until you see some results. First, keep in mind that the Gohonzon is the Buddha, and the Buddha's desire is to see all living being...
by bcol01
Sat Jun 15, 2019 7:12 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: I'm finding it hard to make positive changes in my life
Replies: 11
Views: 398

Re: I'm finding it hard to make positive changes in my life

I'm not sure I understand what you are saying exactly. In other words, say you're looking for employment but you don't put in applications. We can't expect the power of Daimoku to just grant us a job if we're not also focusing on making good causes. Right? Why would you question about getting employ...
by bcol01
Sat Jun 15, 2019 7:11 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: I'm finding it hard to make positive changes in my life
Replies: 11
Views: 398

Re: I'm finding it hard to make positive changes in my life

"This is the practice at work opening your eyes". You hit the nail on the head. I concur. Ty for your encouragement. It is most greatly appreciated. I found the notion of poison to medicine is very powerful. There was no change in external circumstance but rather I was able to perceive the challenge...
by bcol01
Fri Jun 14, 2019 6:39 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: I'm finding it hard to make positive changes in my life
Replies: 11
Views: 398

I'm finding it hard to make positive changes in my life

I chant but it seems like I keep throwing myself in my own way. Is this because I just expect chanting to make my life better rather than also taking concrete steps to move in a positive direction? In other words, say you're looking for employment but you don't put in applications. We can't expect t...
by bcol01
Sun Jun 09, 2019 8:01 pm
Forum: Pure Land
Topic: Is the Pure Land an actual place?
Replies: 17
Views: 667

Re: Is the Pure Land an actual place?

Thank you for your help. I hear that chanting the Nembutsu is good for your health, good luck, etc too. Yes it is a definite place like our Earth. Buddhist sutras describe planets and worlds system apart from our Earth where different types of living beings exist. Our Earth is one such planet where ...
by bcol01
Sun Jun 09, 2019 12:37 am
Forum: Pure Land
Topic: Is the Pure Land an actual place?
Replies: 17
Views: 667

Is the Pure Land an actual place?

I'm new to Pure Land.

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