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by Old tyme hockey
Wed Apr 17, 2019 11:24 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Advice
Replies: 14
Views: 404

Re: Advice

My wife and I went through a similar experience about 12 years ago. We had some unintentional codependency going on with each other, and we each had our cycle of this type of thing (me being jealous of her at one point and vice versa). The "cure" so to speak for me was to divorce myself emotionally...
by Old tyme hockey
Wed Apr 17, 2019 10:42 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Advice
Replies: 14
Views: 404

Re: Advice

Hi , I don’t know where to turn, so I post this here. To have some neutral opinions. Here’s the case, I have been married for 10 years and been together for 12. Our marriage has been really bad lately , recently my wife got a new job.And she became much happier and more positive. She started to men...
by Old tyme hockey
Wed Apr 17, 2019 10:06 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Advice
Replies: 14
Views: 404

Re: Advice

Hi , I don’t know where to turn, so I post this here. To have some neutral opinions. Here’s the case, I have been married for 10 years and been together for 12. Our marriage has been really bad lately , recently my wife got a new job.And she became much happier and more positive. She started to men...
by Old tyme hockey
Wed Apr 17, 2019 10:03 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Advice
Replies: 14
Views: 404

Re: Advice

I think maybe its best to consult marriage counselors for this tricky scenario, and have a sit-down session between you and your wife regarding these matter. I am no expert in marriage affairs, I never had a girlfriend or wife myself. I only had personal experience of chain of different ex step-mom...
by Old tyme hockey
Wed Apr 17, 2019 9:59 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Advice
Replies: 14
Views: 404

Re: Advice

Thanks for sharing. There's no magic cure for all this. But also you don't need force yourself into being manipulated against your wishes. You need someone you can talk to face to face. There's always 2 sides to these stories. You need someone to hear your side, imho Thanks 🙏🏻 I do ,I have talked t...
by Old tyme hockey
Wed Apr 17, 2019 9:58 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Advice
Replies: 14
Views: 404

Re: Advice

Thank you all for taking your time. Especially since my post was rather hard to read. I have sat down with my wife and told her I’m uncomfortable with this right now, going out with guys when our relationship is not great. She has assured me their just friends. Here’s why I’m bothered, since I never...
by Old tyme hockey
Fri Apr 05, 2019 10:38 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Advice
Replies: 14
Views: 404

Advice

Hi , I don’t know where to turn, so I post this here. To have some neutral opinions. Here’s the case, I have been married for 10 years and been together for 12. Our marriage has been really bad lately , recently my wife got a new job.And she became much happier and more positive. She started to ment...
by Old tyme hockey
Wed Oct 18, 2017 9:14 am
Forum: Pure Land
Topic: Alone
Replies: 16
Views: 1389

Re: Alone

I'm in a similar situation. Even the temples that may teach Buddha Name Recitation around me, only teach it as a meditation practice - no explanation of Pure Land doctrine. I study on my own, watch a lot of videos of Dharma services on youtube, listen to a number of podcasts. I took a 2 year corres...
by Old tyme hockey
Mon Oct 16, 2017 11:40 am
Forum: Pure Land
Topic: Paul Roberts
Replies: 17
Views: 1530

Re: Paul Roberts

Does anyone know anything about Paul Roberts and the atrue Shin Buddhist group he ran (or maybe still does run?) to me it seems semi-cult like in that apparently he can validate or invalidate people's shinjin? This is just something I've heard so I'm not sure if it's true or not. But u have found s...
by Old tyme hockey
Mon Oct 16, 2017 11:18 am
Forum: Pure Land
Topic: Alone
Replies: 16
Views: 1389

Re: Alone

Hi i live in Sweden, Where there is no jodo shin temples or groups at all. So sometimes i feel alone and that something is missing. I have contact with a jodo shin teacher online which is very helpfull. Anyone else in my situation? And how do you deal With this? Perhaps i should start my own temple...
by Old tyme hockey
Mon Oct 16, 2017 10:55 am
Forum: Pure Land
Topic: Alone
Replies: 16
Views: 1389

Re: Alone

Dear Old Tyme, I am Dutch but am currently residing in Sweden as I have been caring for my mother the past one and a half year as she was suffering from terminal cancer. Unfortunately she passed away last summer but I am glad to have been able to care for her. Especially the last months were very p...
by Old tyme hockey
Mon Oct 16, 2017 10:43 am
Forum: Pure Land
Topic: Alone
Replies: 16
Views: 1389

Re: Alone

Hi i live in Sweden, Where there is no jodo shin temples or groups at all. So sometimes i feel alone and that something is missing. I have contact with a jodo shin teacher online which is very helpfull. Anyone else in my situation? And how do you deal With this? Perhaps i should start my own temple...
by Old tyme hockey
Mon Oct 16, 2017 10:40 am
Forum: Pure Land
Topic: Alone
Replies: 16
Views: 1389

Re: Alone

I too feel isolated since there's no Buddhist community nearby. Mine is about two hours away, not too far, but still...I've always thought it would be cool to host a Lama and let him or her live here, but that's not going to happen anytime soon. Wouldnt it be nice if one day we could create a virtu...
by Old tyme hockey
Mon Oct 16, 2017 10:32 am
Forum: Pure Land
Topic: Alone
Replies: 16
Views: 1389

Re: Alone

I heard of this phenomenon of being without Sangha from other Purelanders as well. If you start your own temple, you'll learn a lot. Yes, i guess its common ,at least in europe where pure land buddhism is unusual. It would be a great experience probably, but i think it would be more than i can hand...
by Old tyme hockey
Sat Oct 14, 2017 8:57 am
Forum: Pure Land
Topic: Alone
Replies: 16
Views: 1389

Alone

Hi i live in Sweden, Where there is no jodo shin temples or groups at all. So sometimes i feel alone and that something is missing. I have contact with a jodo shin teacher online which is very helpfull. Anyone else in my situation? And how do you deal With this? Perhaps i should start my own temple ...
by Old tyme hockey
Fri Sep 15, 2017 11:33 am
Forum: Pure Land
Topic: Ippen in Ji-Shu
Replies: 19
Views: 2101

Re: Ippen in Ji-Shu

Great posting, i think ippen has some very interesting ideas. The ji shu seems not to exist outside of Japan right?
by Old tyme hockey
Fri Sep 08, 2017 8:43 am
Forum: Pure Land
Topic: Benefits of Nembutsu In This Very Life
Replies: 88
Views: 18424

Re: Benefits of Nembutsu In This Very Life

steveb1 wrote:Thanks for sharing that. Even though the Nembutsu brings you comfort, still I hope that at some point you can find a less awful job.

:)
Thank you, so do i :smile:
by Old tyme hockey
Wed Sep 06, 2017 7:41 am
Forum: Pure Land
Topic: Benefits of Nembutsu In This Very Life
Replies: 88
Views: 18424

Re: Benefits of Nembutsu In This Very Life

Hello everybody, for me the nembutsu have had huge inpact in my daily life. As someone mentioned earlier, it really makes you stay humble. And also coping with strong emotions like anger and sadness. I have a job i really dont like, im a welder and i think its awful. So often ,9 hours a day im a mes...
by Old tyme hockey
Fri Sep 01, 2017 8:16 am
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hello
Replies: 8
Views: 864

Re: Hello

CedarTree wrote:Welcome :)
Thank you for your welcome.
by Old tyme hockey
Thu Aug 31, 2017 7:35 am
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hello
Replies: 8
Views: 864

Re: Hello

Punya wrote:Hello and welcome. :hi:
Hello, and Thank you

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