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by Cinnabar
Fri Aug 07, 2020 10:46 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Where are the younger Buddhists?
Replies: 33
Views: 1238

Re: Where are the younger Buddhists?

Sunrise wrote: Fri Aug 07, 2020 10:34 pm...still crave belonging and community.
It really comes down to what priorities a dharma center sets. In America, creating community is generally not given a high priority. When they prioritize community above all else, they have a different vibe about them.
by Cinnabar
Fri Aug 07, 2020 8:43 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Where are the younger Buddhists?
Replies: 33
Views: 1238

Re: Where are the younger Buddhists?

I understand both sides of this. I have had no money and have missed seeing my own root teachers. Because of centers having cash only no-pay no-play policies, or quite expensive tuitions that I couldn't even put on a card. I have had a center unwilling to postdate a check. On the other hand, I've be...
by Cinnabar
Fri Aug 07, 2020 7:59 pm
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: Ngakpas everywhere!
Replies: 302
Views: 8731

Re: Ngakpas everywhere!

Disclaimer: I'm a bit of a hidden yogi, and I'm not allowed to advertise (and wouldn't anyway). So, to be fair, most people don't know my training and background or how I spend my days. To all my neighbors, I'm just retired, old gardener Bob who always wears a red shirt. That is sort of how I was t...
by Cinnabar
Fri Aug 07, 2020 6:22 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Where are the younger Buddhists?
Replies: 33
Views: 1238

Re: Where are the younger Buddhists?

I started practicing Buddhism in my late teens, and I'm well into my 30s now. Still I'm often the youngest person in the room. Why isn't Buddhism appealing to younger people? What's your experience? It's interesting reading the responses to your question. I was once such a younger person, taking re...
by Cinnabar
Thu Aug 06, 2020 5:18 pm
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: Ngakpas everywhere!
Replies: 302
Views: 8731

Re: Ngakpas everywhere!

This seems obvious, but it seems important to say. There are two things at play when we talk about "ngakpa". One relates to a private and individual spiritual discipline and associated ethical confession. This is something based on the vows we have assumed, empwoerments we have received, and our rel...
by Cinnabar
Sun Aug 02, 2020 3:53 pm
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: Ngakpas everywhere!
Replies: 302
Views: 8731

Re: Ngakpas everywhere!

I'm back to my original question: Why is this always such a hot topic? The reality of some people with vows wearing robes while some people with vows not wearing robes hardly seems challenging. Not controversial enough for it to be a perennial subject of debate. There has to be a deeper thing going ...
by Cinnabar
Sun Aug 02, 2020 1:20 am
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: Ngakpas everywhere!
Replies: 302
Views: 8731

Re: Ngakpas everywhere!

Dharma teachers should not be concerned with what clothes their students wear, in my opinion, unless the students are indecently dressed or wear too much damn patchouli ( I.e any). Ymmv. Nor should students be concerned with what clothes their dharma siblings wear. The red & white ngakpa zen is onl...
by Cinnabar
Sat Aug 01, 2020 7:21 pm
Forum: Nyingma
Topic: summer retreat at palyul
Replies: 19
Views: 1584

Re: summer retreat at palyul

I was told one has to do the whole ngondro again to participate. I was always drawn to those retreats (upstate NY), but really couldn't commit to doing another full ngondro to participate. You can talk with the teachers and see if you have to do one more or just small amount of accumulations or etc.
by Cinnabar
Sat Aug 01, 2020 2:29 am
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: Ngakpas everywhere!
Replies: 302
Views: 8731

Re: Ngakpas everywhere!

I'm a bit curious why this subject generates such strong emotions. I remember wearing my zen and getting called out. Who gave you the zen? In what context? Why are you wearing that? Do you know what that means? Then on a different occasion, not wearing my zen and getting called out. Why aren't you w...
by Cinnabar
Thu Jun 25, 2020 3:19 am
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: Appropriate v. Inappropriate Ways To Meet Teachers?
Replies: 9
Views: 608

Appropriate v. Inappropriate Ways To Meet Teachers?

I am curious what the appropriate and inappropriate ways of meeting teachers are? As a concrete example, I met my root teacher quite accidentally. I had been practicing for some years and just happened to find that a teacher I never heard of from a different lineage was going to teach a few blocks a...
by Cinnabar
Thu Jun 25, 2020 2:49 am
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: The Bee Gathering Nectar From Many Flowers vs The Musk Deer Hunter
Replies: 24
Views: 953

Re: The Bee Gathering Nectar From Many Flowers vs The Musk Deer Hunter

You understand that the person in this story was lying to his gurus in order to trick them into giving him a practice that he was then likely going to use to harm sentient beings? I get the story. The part I don't get is the inequality that one should not see a teacher unless one's interest in the ...
by Cinnabar
Thu Jun 25, 2020 12:28 am
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: The Bee Gathering Nectar From Many Flowers vs The Musk Deer Hunter
Replies: 24
Views: 953

Re: The Bee Gathering Nectar From Many Flowers vs The Musk Deer Hunter

You understand that the person in this story was lying to his gurus in order to trick them into giving him a practice that he was then likely going to use to harm sentient beings? I get the story. The part I don't get is the inequality that one should not see a teacher unless one's interest in the ...
by Cinnabar
Thu Jun 25, 2020 12:14 am
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: The Bee Gathering Nectar From Many Flowers vs The Musk Deer Hunter
Replies: 24
Views: 953

Re: The Bee Gathering Nectar From Many Flowers vs The Musk Deer Hunter

I am sorry, but did you read the thread? Poaching is when you are NOT interested in the teacher at all and just want the teachings. Based on the inequality that one's interest in the teacher >> one's interest in the teaching to attend a teaching... ... then what about the case where one neither kno...
by Cinnabar
Wed Jun 24, 2020 11:47 pm
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: The Bee Gathering Nectar From Many Flowers vs The Musk Deer Hunter
Replies: 24
Views: 953

Re: The Bee Gathering Nectar From Many Flowers vs The Musk Deer Hunter

Sometimes I worry I am type 2 instead of type 1. Than you should fix that. You should always ask yourself if you are interested in teacher or the teaching. If your interest in the latter is greater than the former, don’t go. This sort of throws a wrench into my own experience. On several occasions ...
by Cinnabar
Wed Jun 24, 2020 11:36 pm
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: The Bee Gathering Nectar From Many Flowers vs The Musk Deer Hunter
Replies: 24
Views: 953

Re: The Bee Gathering Nectar From Many Flowers vs The Musk Deer Hunter

mandog wrote: Wed Jun 24, 2020 10:51 pm I don't think this is at all what you are doing.
Seems exactly the same.

In my stories above, I was poaching musk in both cases.
by Cinnabar
Wed Jun 24, 2020 10:42 pm
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: The Bee Gathering Nectar From Many Flowers vs The Musk Deer Hunter
Replies: 24
Views: 953

Re: The Bee Gathering Nectar From Many Flowers vs The Musk Deer Hunter

Even my root and heart teacher I met sort of on a whim.

Poaching musk.

A flyer fell out of a magazine at a Borders. He was going to teach a few blocks away. Didn’t know what I thought of him. Went. Boom. That was 20+ years ago.
by Cinnabar
Wed Jun 24, 2020 10:35 pm
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: The Bee Gathering Nectar From Many Flowers vs The Musk Deer Hunter
Replies: 24
Views: 953

Re: The Bee Gathering Nectar From Many Flowers vs The Musk Deer Hunter

So what is the deciding factor? As an example, I recently took a teaching on line from a teacher from a wholly new lineage. Was drawn to the teacher of the original lineage teaching as well as the teaching. One of those things where if you hear the names you get goose flesh. Then felt really devoted...
by Cinnabar
Wed Jun 24, 2020 9:45 pm
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: The Bee Gathering Nectar From Many Flowers vs The Musk Deer Hunter
Replies: 24
Views: 953

Re: The Bee Gathering Nectar From Many Flowers vs The Musk Deer Hunter

I don't know which I am.

I personally say more of the first. But I am told I am more of the second because I have more than one teacher.
by Cinnabar
Fri Jun 12, 2020 6:02 pm
Forum: Nyingma
Topic: summer retreat at palyul
Replies: 19
Views: 1584

Re: summer retreat at palyul

I was always drawn to those retreats (upstate NY), but really couldn't commit to doing another full ngondro to participate.
by Cinnabar
Mon Jun 01, 2020 7:48 pm
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: Sex and Samaya
Replies: 20
Views: 1144

Re: Sex and Samaya

I'll share a story. When I got started with serious vajrayana practice, I had a bomb dropped on me. A monastic who was the attendant to one of my teachers gave me her condolences for being married. And shared that every time I ejaculated having sex with my spouse, I broke my samaya and incurred the ...

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