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by uan
Wed Dec 31, 2014 12:48 am
Forum: Wellness, Diet and Fitness
Topic: The harms of Masturbation and Porn
Replies: 487
Views: 72699

Re: The harms of Masturbation and Porn

Notably, what you're missing is the development and protection of wholesome states. McKoll, thanks for keeping it real. Since I'm in conversation with ZL directly, I wasn't trying be all inclusive of all things for the casual viewer. But I think I should get credit for: Don't get me wrong, we shoul...
by uan
Tue Dec 30, 2014 9:38 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet and Fitness
Topic: The harms of Masturbation and Porn
Replies: 487
Views: 72699

Re: The harms of Masturbation and Porn

I don't know what Zhen Li is trying to say, but what you're presenting there is an incomplete picture of right effort/energy/exertion and is an unbalanced approach in any case. I'm not presenting anything per se, unbalanced or otherwise. I'm suggesting there are other approaches, beyond renunciatio...
by uan
Tue Dec 30, 2014 4:30 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet and Fitness
Topic: The harms of Masturbation and Porn
Replies: 487
Views: 72699

Re: The harms of Masturbation and Porn

I think most sentient beings find sex more attractive than even games or family. You know this how? Let's not just talk biology, or something you read in a book, etc. There's a world full of averages out there that gets reified. As for repudiating ignorance, we're also talking not just in terms of ...
by uan
Tue Dec 30, 2014 5:35 am
Forum: Wellness, Diet and Fitness
Topic: The harms of Masturbation and Porn
Replies: 487
Views: 72699

Re: The harms of Masturbation and Porn

All sex, broadly speaking, is not conducive to "the aim of the path". But maybe if we parse it enough, we can point to that little bit as "bad" so we somehow don't have to get confronted with this other little bit that is "okay". Then there is the even broader category of "all types of behavior tha...
by uan
Tue Dec 30, 2014 5:03 am
Forum: Wellness, Diet and Fitness
Topic: The harms of Masturbation and Porn
Replies: 487
Views: 72699

Re: The harms of Masturbation and Porn

I guess I should have told you I was talking about the Buddha. :rolling: "And through this line of reasoning one may know how admirable friendship, admirable companionship, admirable camaraderie is actually the whole of the holy life: It is in dependence on me [the Buddha] as an admirable friend th...
by uan
Tue Dec 30, 2014 12:00 am
Forum: Wellness, Diet and Fitness
Topic: The harms of Masturbation and Porn
Replies: 487
Views: 72699

Re: The harms of Masturbation and Porn

Your statement sounds good on the surface, but as an ordinary person, not enlightened, what is "bad" and "harmful"? What is "temporary"? What are "skillful means"? And can those of us who are deluded human beings know? We can figure it out with the help of a spiritual friend. Or do you not think so...
by uan
Mon Dec 29, 2014 4:08 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet and Fitness
Topic: The harms of Masturbation and Porn
Replies: 487
Views: 72699

Re: The harms of Masturbation and Porn

Broadly speaking, from a Buddhist perspective, we can say that masturbation and porn are not conducive to the aims of the path. :good: and it's all we really need to know. What we do with the knowledge, of course, is our own decision. :thinking: :namaste: Kim Maybe. From the Berzin page I linked to...
by uan
Mon Dec 29, 2014 3:48 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet and Fitness
Topic: The harms of Masturbation and Porn
Replies: 487
Views: 72699

Re: The harms of Masturbation and Porn

Too often when Buddhists (not all, maybe only a few, who knows) talk of the negative aspects of sex and giving up things around it (e.g., porn and masturbation) and the need for celibacy, etc., there's usually an element of aversion to it, which is just another trap, no different than the desire/lu...
by uan
Sun Dec 28, 2014 9:26 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet and Fitness
Topic: The harms of Masturbation and Porn
Replies: 487
Views: 72699

Re: The harms of Masturbation and Porn

Buddhism isn't about becoming more natural, it is about going beyond the stupid limits that nature has set for us, and reaching into the infinite. there are no limits, stupid or otherwise, that nature has set for us. The limit is that we don't understand our true nature. Buddhism is a path to achie...
by uan
Thu Dec 18, 2014 6:31 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet and Fitness
Topic: The harms of Masturbation and Porn
Replies: 487
Views: 72699

Re: The harms of Masturbation and Porn

A couple more resources: http://www.berzinarchives.com/web/en/archives/sutra/level2_lamrim/initial_scope/karma/buddhist_view_sexual_ethics/transcript.html http://archive.thubtenchodron.org/GradualPathToEnlightenment/LR_031_Karma_92.pdf (part 1 of 6) For the other parts to the above PDF: http://archi...
by uan
Wed Dec 17, 2014 4:11 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet and Fitness
Topic: The harms of Masturbation and Porn
Replies: 487
Views: 72699

Re: The harms of Masturbation and Porn

This may be more from a vajrayana perspective -- there is really nothing more or less special to masturbation or porn than anything else. It's all about conceptual mind. Is there really a difference between masturbating or posting about whether one should or shouldn't masturbate? We could easily cal...
by uan
Mon Sep 15, 2014 3:22 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Is Western Buddhism an (ethnic) identity-based Buddhism?
Replies: 57
Views: 6252

Re: Is Western Buddhism an (ethnic) identity-based Buddhism?

I'm not in a Sangha in the US either. Haha, I'm just going to add location to my sidebar profile... This happens everyday it seems. The kind of social justice approach to Buddhism is framing things in terms of how the current state of affairs is doing injustice to people of certain races or genders...
by uan
Mon Sep 15, 2014 12:15 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Is Western Buddhism an (ethnic) identity-based Buddhism?
Replies: 57
Views: 6252

Re: Is Western Buddhism an (ethnic) identity-based Buddhism?

My experience is simply that the social justice approach to Buddhism tends to have a disconnect with how things actually work and have actually been going on the ground, despite its sanctimonious claim to the contrary. Zhen Li would you mind expanding a bit more on the social justice approach to Bu...
by uan
Sun Aug 31, 2014 11:50 pm
Forum: Ethical Conduct
Topic: Celibacy
Replies: 294
Views: 41967

Re: Celibacy

I think there's a school of thought where the Dharma is about purifying the mind, and then there's a school of thought where there is no mind to purify. You can replace "purifying one's mind" with "the Buddhist Path" or something so as not to get hung up on the phrase. That way, you can address my ...
by uan
Sun Aug 31, 2014 9:48 pm
Forum: Ethical Conduct
Topic: Celibacy
Replies: 294
Views: 41967

Re: Celibacy

Or maybe restraint is something the Buddha praised as part of purifying one's mind and has nothing to do with (spiritual) economics or veneers. I'm reminded of the story of Huineg, and how he was selected to be the 6th patriarch of the Ch'an school, where the top student at the monastery, Shenxiu, ...
by uan
Sun Aug 31, 2014 5:27 pm
Forum: Ethical Conduct
Topic: Celibacy
Replies: 294
Views: 41967

Re: Celibacy

But I do see it happen a lot, not just in Buddhism, but generally in life, where a person's outwardly stated intention and their actions are at odds. Indeed, you can basically write off the vast majority of Buddhism, past and present (and I'm not being sarcastic). The stated intentions of Buddhadha...
by uan
Sun Aug 31, 2014 3:58 pm
Forum: Ethical Conduct
Topic: Celibacy
Replies: 294
Views: 41967

Re: Celibacy

It's also a no brainer for those professing an intention to attain enlightenment. As I said, it's all in relationship to what your intentions are. If a person states they want to attain enlightenment in this lifetime, but then chooses to go out, get drunk, and have some one night stands, then the p...
by uan
Mon Aug 18, 2014 1:03 am
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: Illuminating Quotes by Malcolm Namdrol-la
Replies: 222
Views: 47882

Re: Illuminating Quotes by Malcolm Namdrol-la

I''m sorry, I'm not able to write or to read between the lines. My English is simple. I asked for my better understanding. Okay? :smile: No need to be sorry for your English. I wouldn't be able to participate on a non-English forum, so I have massive respect for non-native English speakers who do p...
by uan
Sun Aug 17, 2014 6:54 pm
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: Illuminating Quotes by Malcolm Namdrol-la
Replies: 222
Views: 47882

Re: Illuminating Quotes by Malcolm Namdrol-la

I recommend that when anyone decides to make a Dharma connection with someone, they take some time to investigate the person they wish to make a connection with. How was this one illuminating? Nobody does it. I want to get to the first stage of realization. Do you know how to do this? What are the ...
by uan
Thu Aug 14, 2014 4:48 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: What is the difference between a Christian and a Buddhist?
Replies: 93
Views: 7320

Re: What is the difference between a Christian and a Buddhis

papaya, thanks for the kind words about uan's and my posts. Yes, isn't it great to have a civilized forum for discussing differences between Buddhism and other religions / and their similarities, too, for that matter. :) Kudos to the both of you. It's an intriguing question and it's great to have a...

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