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by TharpaChodron
Wed May 29, 2019 9:36 pm
Forum: Nyingma
Topic: Retreat Centers
Replies: 41
Views: 4426

Re: Retreat Centers

There's a lot of ways older people can be of help besides heavy lifting and the like. Here there’s a lot of cooking, cleaning & shopping. Then there’s filling & emptying water bowls, prepping butter lamps (yuck!). Then there’s event stuff like reservations, parking, setting up chairs, & cleaning gu...
by TharpaChodron
Wed May 29, 2019 2:47 am
Forum: Nyingma
Topic: Retreat Centers
Replies: 41
Views: 4426

Re: Retreat Centers

I have not done a retreat and haven't asked my lama about it either. Figured I'd test the waters here before asking a crazy question. Presuming you are in No. CA, take a look at what Vajrapani offers, both Group & Private retreats. This way you can dip your mind for a few days into a quiet locale. ...
by TharpaChodron
Wed May 29, 2019 2:25 am
Forum: Europe
Topic: Kyabje Dudjom Sangye Pema Shepa Rinpoche 2019, Europe
Replies: 9
Views: 6066

Re: Kyabje Dudjom Sangye Pema Shepa Rinpoche 2019, Europe

Isn't Rinpoche coming to Italy too? I am so glad I "met" him in California.
by TharpaChodron
Wed May 29, 2019 2:21 am
Forum: Nyingma
Topic: Retreat Centers
Replies: 41
Views: 4426

Re: Retreat Centers

It will be dependent upon the rules of the dharma center that has the retreat facilities available. oh, I guess I meant Dharma center. Do you know of any "typical" rules in this regard? You have to work a lot, as far as I have seen the situation isn't ideal for older people at this point. /magnus I...
by TharpaChodron
Wed May 29, 2019 2:14 am
Forum: Nyingma
Topic: Retreat Centers
Replies: 41
Views: 4426

Re: Retreat Centers

You have to work a lot, as far as I have seen the situation isn't ideal for older people at this point. And they’re always in need of money. So your kids won’t appreciate you giving their inheritance away. I’m a retiree and I moved into one. But I don’t have a family and a minimal pension. I work a...
by TharpaChodron
Wed May 29, 2019 2:10 am
Forum: Nyingma
Topic: Retreat Centers
Replies: 41
Views: 4426

Re: Retreat Centers

I'm sure this has been asked a million times before, sorrry, but is there an age limit or similar rules and limitation to moving and living at a retreat center? Is it a possiblilty once one is past age 65 to move to one? Have you lived in a six month or longer retreat before? You may not like it fo...
by TharpaChodron
Wed May 29, 2019 2:09 am
Forum: Nyingma
Topic: Retreat Centers
Replies: 41
Views: 4426

Re: Retreat Centers

An option would be, and this is if it is ones wish, to enter retreat. Most dharma centers with retreat housing options would be happy to take your money on a long term monthly basis. Also many centers will have retreat housing that is much less than renting an apartment, paying a home loan, etc. Yo...
by TharpaChodron
Tue May 28, 2019 3:47 pm
Forum: Nyingma
Topic: Retreat Centers
Replies: 41
Views: 4426

Re: Retreat Centers

bryandavis wrote: Tue May 28, 2019 3:36 pm It will be dependent upon the rules of the dharma center that has the retreat facilities available.
oh, I guess I meant Dharma center. Do you know of any "typical" rules in this regard?
by TharpaChodron
Tue May 28, 2019 3:04 pm
Forum: Nyingma
Topic: Retreat Centers
Replies: 41
Views: 4426

Retreat Centers

I'm sure this has been asked a million times before, sorrry, but is there an age limit or similar rules and limitation to moving and living at a retreat center? Is it a possiblilty once one is past age 65 to move to one?
by TharpaChodron
Thu May 23, 2019 2:25 am
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: Finding Your Guru
Replies: 55
Views: 5370

Re: Finding Your Guru

Thanks to those of you who responded to my question. I have the good fortune to have pretty regular contact with said teacher. However, upon further reflection, I don't think I will soon be making a display of myself and "officially" request to be a student. I'll just continue developing myself as a...
by TharpaChodron
Wed May 22, 2019 5:08 am
Forum: Engaged Buddhism
Topic: Black & Buddhist in America - 2018
Replies: 31
Views: 3917

Re: Black & Buddhist in America - 2018

Last year, the Union Theological Seminary in New York hosted a dialogue with 12 prominent African American teachers of the Nichiren, Tibetan, Theravada, and Zen traditions. It's sometimes asked why does this kind of representation matter. As I understand it, it's comforting to see someone like your...
by TharpaChodron
Wed May 22, 2019 4:34 am
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: Finding Your Guru
Replies: 55
Views: 5370

Re: Finding Your Guru

Here's my question on this subject: When one finds a teacher they feel a connection to and have gone through the whole examining the teacher process and have confidence, how does one ask them to be your teacher? Maybe it's not necessary to ask them in a formal way to be your teacher, but is it helpf...
by TharpaChodron
Mon May 20, 2019 3:00 am
Forum: Mahāyāna Buddhism
Topic: Best country to live in to practice Mahayana Buddhism?
Replies: 41
Views: 4623

Re: Best country to live in to practice Mahayana Buddhism?

What would you consider to be the "best" situation for Mahayana practice? If it's finding some Shangri La where you can practice the Dharma undisturbed by the realities of Samsara, then that's on thing. As a Mahayana practitioner, I would think that you would want to practice the Bodhisattva path an...
by TharpaChodron
Mon May 20, 2019 12:54 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Trauma and the public mind
Replies: 67
Views: 4594

Re: Trauma and the public mind

Modern psychology doesn't ignore or scorn religious insights etc, that's a very outdated way of practicing. I'm sure it still exists, but modern theory and practice definitely welcomes and incorporates individuals' spirituality and culture because they are the tools a person can utilize to help hea...
by TharpaChodron
Mon May 20, 2019 12:53 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Trauma and the public mind
Replies: 67
Views: 4594

Re: Trauma and the public mind

Modern psychology doesn't ignore or scorn religious insights etc, that's a very outdated way of practicing. I'm sure it still exists, but modern theory and practice definitely welcomes and incorporates individuals' spirituality and culture because they are the tools a person can utilize to help hea...
by TharpaChodron
Sat May 18, 2019 11:42 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Trauma and the public mind
Replies: 67
Views: 4594

Re: Trauma and the public mind

As long as modern psychology ignores or scorns spiritual or religious insights, they will be little help to the many tangled minds. This is part of an old Indian work, the Yoga Vasishta ; Vasishta was an ancient Rishi. II 9 Rama asked: Lord, you are indeed the knower of truth; is God (daivam) real ...
by TharpaChodron
Sat May 18, 2019 11:32 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Trauma and the public mind
Replies: 67
Views: 4594

Re: Trauma and the public mind

Thought provoking post, no quick answer on this one. Trying to cut to the chase, our culture has much more awareness of mental health issues than some less "developed" ones, but if that means we have actually better results, I'm not so sure. But, I think it would be an idealistic and simplified view...
by TharpaChodron
Sat May 11, 2019 11:24 pm
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: Another Topic of molesting female practitioner
Replies: 113
Views: 12136

Re: Another Topic of molesting female practitioner

It's true that in certain circumstances, such as a therapist/counselor having sex with a client/patient, it is always considered abuse, regardless of whether or not the patient thought it was consensual. As far as the notion that these are just allegations and we need to withhold judgment, well yes,...
by TharpaChodron
Wed May 08, 2019 11:46 pm
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: Another Topic of molesting female practitioner
Replies: 113
Views: 12136

Re: Another Topic of molesting female practitioner

Yeah, it's much more about the behavior. I'm not some prude, I've seen all kinds of socially taboo relationships that aren't abusive, but when power is being used in one direction solely for one's own pleasure, that shit is toxic no matter who the parties involved are. I have several friends that w...
by TharpaChodron
Wed May 08, 2019 11:36 pm
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: Another Topic of molesting female practitioner
Replies: 113
Views: 12136

Re: Another Topic of molesting female practitioner

My point is simply about being a hypocrite. Don't pretend to be a monk and carelessly bang randoms on the side. Especially if it seems you only want to publicly have vows to make a living. I know a few Lama marriages full of infidelity, betrayal and anger as well. The problem is using rank and psyc...

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