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by TharpaChodron
Thu Mar 14, 2019 1:20 am
Forum: Ethical Conduct
Topic: Lying: Is it Acceptable?
Replies: 50
Views: 9579

Re: Lying: Is it Acceptable?

My truth is what Tennessee Williams wrote in "Night of the Iguana," - the only behavior I see that's ugly or wrong in humanity is unkindness. If someone believes they are acting kindly to someone, when that person finds the action harmful, but there is no way of communicating the difference, you no...
by TharpaChodron
Tue Mar 12, 2019 3:07 am
Forum: Ethical Conduct
Topic: Ethics of selling gifts
Replies: 4
Views: 735

Re: Ethics of selling gifts

Personally I'm more interested in your name, NFLKiwifan...you're a New Zealander who likes US Football? On the other hand, I don't think there's anything wrong with selling the gifts, particularly because they are computers and thereby somewhat devoid of personal meaning and about to become obsolete...
by TharpaChodron
Sun Mar 03, 2019 3:10 am
Forum: Ethical Conduct
Topic: Lying: Is it Acceptable?
Replies: 50
Views: 9579

Re: Lying: Is it Acceptable?

You might want to check out Columbia U's study on lies, or specifically secrets, Keepingsecrets.org Truth is most people will lie or keep secrets, and why they do is interesting. What I find curious is that we have dominant cultural norms that tell us how we should behave, but reality doesn't meet o...
by TharpaChodron
Mon Feb 25, 2019 1:52 am
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Are men or women more interested in Enlightenment?
Replies: 63
Views: 5068

Re: Are men or women more interested in Enlightenment?

I don't think this forum is unwelcoming to women at all. And most of the practitioners at the places I go in the US <California to be exact) are women, although I don't have real proof of that. Like others said, I don't think women are less interested in enlightenment or Buddhism, but often the pri...
by TharpaChodron
Mon Feb 25, 2019 12:05 am
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Are men or women more interested in Enlightenment?
Replies: 63
Views: 5068

Re: Are men or women more interested in Enlightenment?

I don't think this forum is unwelcoming to women at all. And most of the practitioners at the places I go in the US <California to be exact) are women, although I don't have real proof of that. Like others said, I don't think women are less interested in enlightenment or Buddhism, but often the prio...
by TharpaChodron
Thu Feb 21, 2019 3:45 am
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: The Dilemma of Privilege
Replies: 30
Views: 2307

Re: The Dilemma of Privilege

Focusing on your own privilege is a distraction. Remember impermenance is one of the key Buddhist teachings. I was just on a cruise ship in the Caribbean. I listened to so many people from way up north saying over and over again how lucky they were to have avoided the latest winter storms and -41 be...
by TharpaChodron
Sat Jan 26, 2019 4:24 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Sedona/Flagstaff
Replies: 10
Views: 1038

Re: Sedona/Flagstaff

Lukeinaz wrote: Fri Jan 25, 2019 4:38 pm pricey (like everything in sedona), but this place is sooooo good.

https://chocolatree.com/
I'll stop by, sounds delish :)
by TharpaChodron
Sat Jan 26, 2019 4:22 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Sedona/Flagstaff
Replies: 10
Views: 1038

Re: Sedona/Flagstaff

Garchen is a good idea. Sedona is notorious for faux- Buddhist cult nonsense tho so keep your head up. "Jetsuma" has a presence there or at least did. Maybe they've settled down and become good practitioners, but the stuff coming out 10-15 years ago made it seem highly skip-able, even if they did h...
by TharpaChodron
Fri Jan 25, 2019 4:49 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Sedona/Flagstaff
Replies: 10
Views: 1038

Re: Sedona/Flagstaff

Hey guys, I'm headed to Flagstaff and Sedona this weekend for a brief visit and was wondering if anyone knows of any good Buddhist, especially of the Tibetan or Vajrayana persuasion, things to do there. I can't find any groups with actual practices, except there is the Stupa. Any suggestions are ap...
by TharpaChodron
Fri Jan 25, 2019 3:08 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Sedona/Flagstaff
Replies: 10
Views: 1038

Sedona/Flagstaff

Hey guys, I'm headed to Flagstaff and Sedona this weekend for a brief visit and was wondering if anyone knows of any good Buddhist, especially of the Tibetan or Vajrayana persuasion, things to do there. I can't find any groups with actual practices, except there is the Stupa. Any suggestions are app...
by TharpaChodron
Sun Dec 30, 2018 1:35 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Denial and defense mechanism - Western Pysch perspective
Replies: 16
Views: 1509

Re: How to face false accusation

Anders wrote: Fri Dec 28, 2018 2:04 pm
TharpaChodron wrote: Fri Dec 28, 2018 4:18 am Sounds a little Gestalt like, no? What is your therapeutic school?
A mixture of gestalt, existential, client-based and body focused with a few Danish influences on the side.
Sounds very interesting! Danish influences would definitely be completely new to me.
by TharpaChodron
Fri Dec 28, 2018 4:18 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Denial and defense mechanism - Western Pysch perspective
Replies: 16
Views: 1509

Re: How to face false accusation

Well, despite some naysayers opinions, that whole Freudian defense mechanism theory is pretty accurate, I think, on how some of that works. The whole denial and projection thing... Are you familiar with the Motivational Interviewing/Enhancement people's take on denial? IMO their argument is more co...
by TharpaChodron
Fri Dec 28, 2018 4:17 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Denial and defense mechanism - Western Pysch perspective
Replies: 16
Views: 1509

Re: Denial and defense mechanism - Western Pysch perspective

Same here, and I am minimally educated, to be honest. My views are all "this is how I feel at the time". since we're talking about this stuff, I'm seriously considering starting Lama Tsultrim Allione's "Feeding your demons" training for clinical work because it seems like a very good integrative ap...
by TharpaChodron
Thu Dec 27, 2018 4:33 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Denial and defense mechanism - Western Pysch perspective
Replies: 16
Views: 1509

Re: Denial and defense mechanism - Western Pysch perspective

I think it can ultimately be boiled down to our good ol Buddhist "passion aggression and prejudice" and ego but I guess I may be predisposed to an "integrated approach." I pretty much see some truth in a lot of different models, but then I'm just working on my licensure and am in no way an expert. ...
by TharpaChodron
Thu Dec 27, 2018 4:06 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Denial and defense mechanism - Western Pysch perspective
Replies: 16
Views: 1509

Re: Denial and defense mechanism - Western Pysch perspective

I think it can ultimately be boiled down to our good ol Buddhist "passion aggression and prejudice" and ego but I guess I may be predisposed to an "integrated approach." I pretty much see some truth in a lot of different models, but then I'm just working on my licensure and am in no way an expert.
by TharpaChodron
Thu Dec 27, 2018 1:11 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Denial and defense mechanism - Western Pysch perspective
Replies: 16
Views: 1509

Re: How to face false accusation

Isn't this the truth. So many times I get told how the job I chose to do for low pay I am actually doing because I want to "make money off of them"...if they only knew. I once had someone accuse me of being in league with the prosecutors office...this when working in conjunction with an alternative...
by TharpaChodron
Wed Dec 26, 2018 7:02 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Denial and defense mechanism - Western Pysch perspective
Replies: 16
Views: 1509

Denial and defense mechanism - Western Pysch perspective

You can be grateful because you are exhausting your previous negative karma. I know teachers who say to be falsely accused of wrong doing is a great thing and an excellent opportunity etc. In my job, being falsely accused is de riguer. Now when someone deliberately lies or accuses me of something I...
by TharpaChodron
Tue Dec 25, 2018 4:40 pm
Forum: Mahāyāna Buddhism
Topic: How to face false accusation
Replies: 11
Views: 1590

Re: How to face false accusation

You can be grateful because you are exhausting your previous negative karma. I know teachers who say to be falsely accused of wrong doing is a great thing and an excellent opportunity etc. In my job, being falsely accused is de riguer. Now when someone deliberately lies or accuses me of something I ...
by TharpaChodron
Sat Dec 22, 2018 3:40 am
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: New Rainbowbody Manifestation
Replies: 24
Views: 3740

Re: New Rainbowbody Manifestation

So, silly question, when you achieve rainbow body, you shrink down and get really small??? How does that work? Not a silly question...after the breath etc has stopped the body slowly reverts back to the elements and then into light leaving only the hair and nails behind. As was said previously this...
by TharpaChodron
Tue Dec 18, 2018 3:57 am
Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
Topic: New Rainbowbody Manifestation
Replies: 24
Views: 3740

Re: New Rainbowbody Manifestation

So, silly question, when you achieve rainbow body, you shrink down and get really small??? How does that work?

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