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This is goodbye.

Posted: Tue Apr 30, 2013 6:00 am
by Sara H
So I think I'm done here.

I've been active on Dharmawheel for a while, and it's been fun, and there've been some good discussions, but I think I'm going to leave now, or at least take a temporary or indefinite hiatus.

We'll see whether I come back or not.
I'm not sure if I will.

It's possible I might stick my head in from time to time and say hi and post a response, but I doubt I'll be on or very active much anymore, or at least for the time being.

Thanks for everything, it's nice to meet you all, and know you all.

For those who want to get a hold of me, you can do so by PMing me, and I will get it to my email.

Appreciate all the good times and good discussions on here.

Have a nice life everyone.

I wish you all well.

In Gassho,

Sara H.

P.S. I'll stick around for a little while longer to respond to anybody in this thread.

Re: This is goodbye.

Posted: Tue Apr 30, 2013 6:11 am
by plwk
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Practice well :mrgreen:

Re: This is goodbye.

Posted: Tue Apr 30, 2013 6:15 am
by Simon E.
I think many of us have done a " Goodbye Cruel Website ", or been tempted to.
I would swallow your pride and think again Sarah.
I would consider the content of your posts and ask yourself what it might be that irks people.
Something many of us have had to do, certainly I have.
I would concentrate on two things in particular..one is your assertion that you remember past lives...
This comes across as needing to push your credentials. As needy in fact.
The other is
your habit
of making things
sound significant
by the way you
phrase
your posts.
This amounts to wearing a "Kick Me " sign around your neck.

I hope you will stay. You have unique experiences to share.. as we all do.

:namaste:

Re: This is goodbye.

Posted: Tue Apr 30, 2013 6:33 am
by Sara H
Simon E. wrote:I think many of us have done a " Goodbye Cruel Website ", or been tempted to.
I would swallow your pride and think again Sarah.
I would consider the content of your posts and ask yourself what it might be that irks people.
Something many of us have had to do, certainly I have.
I would concentrate on two things in particular..one is your assertion that you remember past lives...
This comes across as needing to push your credentials. As needy in fact.
The other is
your habit
of making things
sound significant
by the way you
phrase
your posts.
This amounts to wearing a "Kick Me " sign around your neck.

I hope you will stay. You have unique experiences to share.. as we all do.

:namaste:
I think you misunderstand Simon.

I've spoken about my past lives, because I think it's important that people see that laypeople have these come up too.

I feel very strongly that it's important to speak about these sorts of things and other aspects of spiritual or kensho experience.

I think it helps demystify the idea that these are somehow "extraordinary" or "unheard of."

I think it's very important to do that, because it helps make them less scary. I say that because from my own experience, it made it less scary for me, my first time something like that came up, to know I was not the only one, and know that someone else had talked about it before. I think that's very important.

Past lives are not "special" Simon. I think it's important to talk about them, and to be open to answering questions about them.

I also think it's important to have the courage to speak the truth about things, as best one understands it, and not be held back by fear of what others may think of it.

I have no intention to stop doing that, or change the way I write.

Part of the reason I'm leaving has to do with the fact that I'm starting to get into business school pretty intensely, and so I just don't have the time that it takes to commitment to threads and discussions any more. They eat up a lot of my time, and thought, and I just don't have it to spare any more. I actually do put a lot of time and care into my posts. And I don't really have that time to give anymore what with school kicking off and all.

But, you know, I've never really been a "community minded" person. And, at the end of the day, I feel the need to just do my own training, and let other people do theirs.

It's not pride Simon, I'm just done. I feel like I've hit a limit to how much energy may be good to put into this. At least for now.

But, I appreciate your sentiments, and I wish you well.

Cheers!

In Gassho,

Sara H.

Re: This is goodbye.

Posted: Tue Apr 30, 2013 6:36 am
by Sara H
plwk wrote:Image

Practice well :mrgreen:
Awww!

Thank you plwk!

I love kittens!

:heart:

You take care too!
:)
-Sara

Re: This is goodbye.

Posted: Tue Apr 30, 2013 7:22 am
by Sara H
Oh, there is one thing I do want to say:

I want to thank David Snyder for hosting this website.

I think that's pretty awesome of him.

Thank you David.

In Gassho,

Sara

Re: This is goodbye.

Posted: Tue Apr 30, 2013 7:31 am
by shaunc
Good-luck & best wishes.

Re: This is goodbye.

Posted: Tue Apr 30, 2013 8:19 am
by Kim O'Hara
Bye (for now anyway) Sara - and thanks for your contribution to discussions here. Do drop in occasionally when you have time.
And all the best for your studies :reading:

:namaste:
Kim

Re: This is goodbye.

Posted: Tue Apr 30, 2013 8:44 am
by Anders
Thanks for the pleasure, Sara. Hope to see you tickled into contributing more in the future anyway.

Re: This is goodbye.

Posted: Tue Apr 30, 2013 9:08 am
by Grigoris
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Re: This is goodbye.

Posted: Tue Apr 30, 2013 9:28 am
by Seishin
Certainly, many of us have done an "exit-stage left" before. It's always a good thing to let go of these things and get back to practice. Come back when the waters have calmed. :smile:

I wish you well,
Gassho,
Seishin.

Re: This is goodbye.

Posted: Tue Apr 30, 2013 3:11 pm
by Sara H
Hey, thanks everyone, I appreciate it

I wish you all well.

In Gassho,

Sara H.

Re: This is goodbye.

Posted: Tue Apr 30, 2013 6:10 pm
by dzogchungpa
It seems our merit was insufficient. :crying:

Re: This is goodbye.

Posted: Tue Apr 30, 2013 6:14 pm
by Admin_PC
sorry i missed this last night
hope it's just a hiatus and not a permanent "goodbye".

most of my forum experience has been foreign language or martial arts related and my experiences have generally been very positive.
i even met some of my best friends in real life from the martial arts related forums.
didn't start reading Buddhist discussion forums until mid way through last year and it's been a definite learning experience.
i've never gotten as angry, hurt, or upset during online discussion as i have on Buddhism-related forums.
i can really understand the need to take a break, especially if online discussion bleeds into real life and even your practice.
i've actually thought of quitting altogether numerous times as a result; sometimes even going so far as to consider quitting Buddhism altogether.
at the same time, I've received a lot of advice and encouragement on Buddhism-related forums and I'm in debt to those folks who've helped me out.
it's become easy for me to seek out confrontation online and it's a habit that I know i have to break.
have to remind myself that it's okay not to mix it up sometimes and that it's okay just to stick to threads & viewpoints that are non-confrontational.

understand that you've gotta weigh the pros and cons to see if something's actually benefiting you or not.
wish you all the best and hope things work out.

Re: This is goodbye.

Posted: Tue Apr 30, 2013 6:58 pm
by DGA
Hi Sara,

I wish you a long, prosperous, and healthy life. May your practice flourish and your realization deepen.

:cheers:

In friendship,
Jikan

Re: This is goodbye.

Posted: Wed May 01, 2013 12:23 am
by shel
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Re: This is goodbye.

Posted: Wed May 01, 2013 2:33 am
by plwk
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I lurve this song... :tongue:

Re: This is goodbye.

Posted: Wed May 01, 2013 3:24 am
by shel
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Re: This is goodbye.

Posted: Wed May 01, 2013 3:57 am
by Johnny Dangerous
Meh you shouldn't decide to leave, just take a short break.

I've had a couple conversations on here that made me tempted to leave for good, i'm glad I stuck around, there is good here, even if it's sandwiched with frustrations sometimes. Just look at it like sitting, sometimes negative stuff happens because practice is working.

Re: This is goodbye.

Posted: Wed May 01, 2013 5:36 am
by DNS
Sara H wrote:Oh, there is one thing I do want to say:
I want to thank David Snyder for hosting this website.
I think that's pretty awesome of him.
Thank you David.
Thanks; it is the community that makes this place.
Sara H wrote:I've spoken about my past lives, because I think it's important that people see that laypeople have these come up too.
Where is this? The search function is still on the fritz so I can't search your posts.
:techproblem:

So perhaps you can show me the link to that thread.