Johnny Dangerous wrote:Can you show me the statistics? Anecdotally, I simply think you are wrong, or are projecting a narrow set of experiences as reality.
Yes, I didn't have the time earlier to look it up. The topic is so complex and there are so many things I could tell you, that this is really beyond the realm of the internet and into essay territory, I know people won't read that based on my experience in the Anarchism thread.
Dr. Capaldi's research examined the different relationship violence scenarios -- violence by him only, violence by her only, violence by both with him initiating, and violence by both with her initiating. Of these, the most likely to result in future injury to women is when she initiates violence against him and he responds, although both mutually aggressive groups were close in danger levels.
Dr. Capaldi notes that in a study of women who were in a battered women's shelter, "67% of the women reported severe violence toward their partner in the past year." Others in the domestic violence field, including Erin Pizzey, founder of the first battered women's shelter in England in the early 1970s, have had similar findings.
According to Dr. Capaldi, "Overall, young couples with unidirectional violence report fewer acts and forms of violence than bidirectional couples."
* Myth: most physical abuse is carried out by men, especially fathers.
Fact: violent acts towards children are more likely to be meted out by mothers than fathers (49% of the sample experienced this from mothers and 40% from fathers).
NSPCC Director Mary Marsh says: Modern myths about child cruelty have emerged from the public attention given to horrific and frightening cases of child abuse by strangers. Other traditional stereotypes come from a historical wellspring of children's stories about wicked adult bogey
figures. These stereotypes have become part of popular culture. This report challenges us to re-examine preconceived ideas about child cruelty. In some cases it calls on policy-makers and professionals to overhaul thinking and reconsider how to approach different kinds of child maltreatment.
And the government implicitly assumes that only men are capable of domestic abuse,
In these 21 US states, as well as in the UK, only men
will be automatically arrested if accused of domestic violence. This, itself, is an act of violence, since men clearly have no reason to report domestic violence if this is the case.
http://www.saveservices.org/dvlp/policy ... v-assault/
http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfre ... olence-men
http://www.equation.org.uk/wp-content/u ... rators.pdf
There's more, but I don't have time to find it. Of course, it's very easy to find these facts online.
BUT AS SOON AS... one's service is women, LBGTIA people--- then it's all political and bad dharma.
Thr subtext is... feed the hungry,care for the sick, heal the wounded... but the women and queers are on their own.
Being a woman and being queer is not being sick or wounded. It's just being a regular person, like the other half of the population are just regular people. They should be viewed and treated equally in this regard.
Also, is not everyone on the board who disagrees with anyone else not thereby being considered a propagator of "bad dharma?"
Don't you think that what I am saying is bad dharma? That's expected. That's why we should debate these issues.