Ok, Ayu.Ayu wrote:I deleted a thread in the "Suggestions" subforum lately. Your comment was the last one in that thread but it was not the reason for the removal.joy&peace wrote:Comments from people who care very much about this site, and practice Dharma seriously - are valuable.
I've spent several months in nature meditating; I do not eat meat, I am kind to all beings - especially the ones who are usually not considered - yet I am one of the least popular members here.
As such, sometimes when I post - the thread gets deleted, or something like this.
Were I to protest, I would simply get a warning, past history would tend to show.
I have always liked your posts my friend.
There were two/three reasons:
- the suggestion was feasible, i.e. very much work to collect Malcolm's, Astus' and other's posts and not much use, because anybody can read them anyhow.
- the names of Malcolm and Astus were in the title of that topic. Therefore it could be assumed the topic was about them. Such a title is a slippery slope often, because it might invite to gossip or pillorying,
- and the thread evolved to fun comments about these venerable member's. Very funny indeed, but quite respectless as well.
So, the topic was deleted because of a lack of respect.
I think, rule No. 1, if you want to participate in online conversation: don't take anything personal and don't expect too much from your fellow human beings.
Most of the thread - and the comments you mention - seemed to be entirely in friendship and respect.
It does certainly depend on many factors and if one perceives levity as a disrespectful thing, that's certainly one's prerogative.
I did not perceive anything like this, so I did not see it from that angle at all; as I said, almost the entire tone - seemed one of respect.
I wonder how Astus feels about them. . . Chungpa, and Grigoris, I suppose.
Grigoris is a little unknown to me but Chungpa, has spotless character and reputation.
Namaste
He'll love this one!
The English and French however are much more subtle and consider us Germans as horribly rude. In England directly criticising somebody is very middle class, so people who claim to be well mannered are world champions of finding indirect ways to express their contempt - damning somebody with faint praise is a good example for that. Of course some of them can also be very direct, depending on their subculture. But they never complain, as you can see in this video 
I have to watch that movie 