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Heartbreak

Post by avatamsaka3 » Fri May 22, 2020 7:02 pm

I am wondering what the physical and subtle basis is for heartbreak. I remember earlier in my life when I was heartbroken it felt like there was a pain or stiffness or blockage in the center of my upper chest... For instance, in cases of divorce, rejection, loneliness, isolation & pain, do you all know of good ways to work with this feeling, perhaps on a subtle level? Perhaps one of the chakras is blocked or something. May all beings benefit!

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Re: Heartbreak

Post by Malcolm » Fri May 22, 2020 7:05 pm

avatamsaka3 wrote:
Fri May 22, 2020 7:02 pm
I am wondering what the physical and subtle basis is for heartbreak. I remember earlier in my life when I was heartbroken it felt like there was a pain or stiffness or blockage in the center of my upper chest... For instance, in cases of divorce, rejection, loneliness, isolation & pain, do you all know of good ways to work with this feeling, perhaps on a subtle level? Perhaps one of the chakras is blocked or something. May all beings benefit!
Disturbed vata or rlung.

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Re: Heartbreak

Post by avatamsaka3 » Fri May 22, 2020 7:07 pm

OK, and the solution?

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Re: Heartbreak

Post by PadmaVonSamba » Fri May 22, 2020 7:23 pm

The science behind a broken heart:
https://www.health.qld.gov.au/news-even ... oken-heart

The quickest fix is to eat chocolate
and maybe go but a present for yourself.
I also found reading the Tibetan Book of the Dead
(Liberation Through Hearing in the Bardo) to be particularly therapeutic.
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Re: Heartbreak

Post by Malcolm » Fri May 22, 2020 7:36 pm

avatamsaka3 wrote:
Fri May 22, 2020 7:07 pm
OK, and the solution?
Vata pacifying diet and behavior.

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Re: Heartbreak

Post by avatamsaka3 » Fri May 22, 2020 10:20 pm

I am truly asking on behalf of others. I know some may not believe that.

Any info on this diet and behavior then?

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Re: Heartbreak

Post by Malcolm » Sat May 23, 2020 2:58 am

:zzz:
avatamsaka3 wrote:
Fri May 22, 2020 10:20 pm
I am truly asking on behalf of others. I know some may not believe that.

Any info on this diet and behavior then?
Google vasant lad, etc.

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Re: Heartbreak

Post by LastLegend » Sat May 23, 2020 3:13 am

avatamsaka3 wrote:
Fri May 22, 2020 7:02 pm
I am wondering what the physical and subtle basis is for heartbreak. I remember earlier in my life when I was heartbroken it felt like there was a pain or stiffness or blockage in the center of my upper chest... For instance, in cases of divorce, rejection, loneliness, isolation & pain, do you all know of good ways to work with this feeling, perhaps on a subtle level? Perhaps one of the chakras is blocked or something. May all beings benefit!
Let the pain soak in deeply. :lol:
Ask yourself what is it you want from that person? Sex?
Make personal vows.

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Re: Heartbreak

Post by Ayu » Sat May 23, 2020 4:02 am

I found awareness of breathing as taught in the sutras a very good remedy in situations of emergency.
For the benefit and ease of all sentient beings. :heart:

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Re: Heartbreak

Post by avatamsaka3 » Sat May 23, 2020 4:30 am

LastLegend, to be clear this is not for me... So I don't want anything. :smile:

I'm not sure I'm talking about an emergency here. I'm talking about how to help people who feel the pain of rejection, loneliness, separation, being "unloveable" as a distinct sensation in their chest.

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Re: Heartbreak

Post by javier.espinoza.t » Sat May 23, 2020 8:03 am

avatamsaka3 wrote:
Fri May 22, 2020 7:02 pm
I am wondering what the physical and subtle basis is for heartbreak. I remember earlier in my life when I was heartbroken it felt like there was a pain or stiffness or blockage in the center of my upper chest... For instance, in cases of divorce, rejection, loneliness, isolation & pain, do you all know of good ways to work with this feeling, perhaps on a subtle level? Perhaps one of the chakras is blocked or something. May all beings benefit!
yep, the grasping manifests as a tension in the body. one can deal with it through different meditations. a kind of physical yoga helps a lot for loosening that. important is to "move forward" also.

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Re: Heartbreak

Post by Ayu » Sat May 23, 2020 8:07 am

avatamsaka3 wrote:
Sat May 23, 2020 4:30 am
LastLegend, to be clear this is not for me... So I don't want anything. :smile:

I'm not sure I'm talking about an emergency here. I'm talking about how to help people who feel the pain of rejection, loneliness, separation, being "unloveable" as a distinct sensation in their chest.
I experienced such as emergency, because it seemed to be unbearable and unrepairable.
Concious breathing as meditation and in day to day life as well - - - > helped.
And if the person has a connection to Green Tara, her sadhana helps as well.
For the benefit and ease of all sentient beings. :heart:

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Re: Heartbreak

Post by Punya » Sat May 23, 2020 8:38 am

avatamsaka3 wrote:
Sat May 23, 2020 4:30 am

I'm not sure I'm talking about an emergency here. I'm talking about how to help people who feel the pain of rejection, loneliness, separation, being "unloveable" as a distinct sensation in their chest.
There is a meditation called Mindfulness of Emotions by Dr Russ Harris, which I found in the past to be incredibly helpful. It teaches a way to make room for potentially overwhelming emotions and allows for focus on different parts of the body where emotional pain may be experienced.

Due to the Covid-19 situation it's currently available for free @ https://www.actmindfully.com.au/product ... t-download.
The meditation I am referring to is Track 3. There also seems to be a video version on YouTube.
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Re: Heartbreak

Post by avatamsaka3 » Sat May 23, 2020 12:11 pm

I experienced such as emergency, because it seemed to be unbearable and irreparable.
I'm sorry to hear that. I guess sometimes it is.

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Re: Heartbreak

Post by javier.espinoza.t » Sat May 23, 2020 6:27 pm

PadmaVonSamba wrote:
Fri May 22, 2020 7:23 pm
The science behind a broken heart:
https://www.health.qld.gov.au/news-even ... oken-heart

The quickest fix is to eat chocolate
and maybe go but a present for yourself.
I also found reading the Tibetan Book of the Dead
(Liberation Through Hearing in the Bardo) to be particularly therapeutic.

。。。
haha cool! i liked to make intensive sutra reading. when i read sutra i try to imagine so it takes me away from pain.

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