I would like to suggest something to consider...
There may be some question about how a teacher seems to magically know what is right for one student and right for another student, even sometimes having only recently having met and spoken with the student, listening to the student's questions and so forth, maybe only during a public talk question and answer period, or during the first private interview. Maybe a first encounter.
This is really not so mysterious, as people who have years of experience in any variety of professions can tell you. I have a friend who is a designer. There are all sorts of designers, graphic designers, interior designers, landscape designers, and so on. My friend deals with a lot of new clients on a regular basis, and told me that she can pretty much size up a client in the first few minutes. She knows which ones are chasing some vague idea, which ones have absolutely no idea what they want, or why, which clients are going to keep changing their minds, or be critical of every insignificant detail, or aren't really even very serious about wanting her help, but are just sort of bouncing ideas around, which ones ask for advice and then ignore it, and which ones will take up hours of your time and then go someplace else. And of course, she can tell which clients seriously want to get a job done.
It's this way with experienced lamas too. That's why, for example, when you bring up all kinds of issues, you expect some kind of exquisite remedy, a teacher will very often tell you to just keep meditating, just keep up with ngondro or whatever. It sounds like maybe a simple brush-off, a one-answer-fits-all reply like an automated email reply. But it isn't. This very experienced teacher has seen your nervous energy a hundred times before, has listened to countless students ramble aimlessly through a question, trying to pinpoint exactly what the question is, and can pick up on whether you are just shopping around for ways to boost your own ego, whether you'll be gone in three months, or whether you will still be practicing what the teacher tells you to do 15, 20, 30 years from now. This teacher may even realize that you already have a lot of wisdom, or a strong sense of compassion, or a great deal of patience, that there are things you really don't need too much help with, but should work more on other areas. Maybe you are too complacent, or, perhaps just the opposite, maybe you are never satisfied.
That's why it's different for each student, and why the teacher may give your dharma brother or sister some "exotic" kind of ritual, tell them to get a bell and dorje or do a particular practice, plan for a retreat,etc. and tell you merely to extend your sitting meditation from one hour to two hours, if you think you can. Just as in a triage emergency room, each patient has different needs. One needs a band-aid on a cut, and another needs surgery.
But, my point is, a teacher with a lot of experiences is already familiar with your state of mind. It's not that strange!
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