yes i should have mentioned it myself. all what i said is not to blame neurotic people in a slightest.
i wish all to be at peace with everything and be happy, so to me neurotic people are very troubled and it's pain to see how they oftentimes struggle to find peace because of their unhealed wounds. i just wish that more western vajrayana practitioners, both healthy and traumatised alike, be more aware of this problem. just like weitsicht i too believe that this is probably the only stark difference between western students and tibetans which had been puzzling me for a long time. why do western buddhism followers almost always look so uptight and filled with so much self-concern meanwhile tibetans are almost always smiley and seem like not giving a slightest damn they follow a spiritiual tradition where "giving birth to the heart of sadness" regarded as one of the venerated achievement? it would be nice more westerners will realise they have a deeper problem to be solved before jumping in a vajrayana ocean.