In terms of how (I perceive) you’re framing it (i.e. what to do or think about having a brilliant, helpful yet abusive and flawed teacher) - I’m not sure it wasn't resolved by moving over to Thrangu R.Simon E. wrote: ↑Sat Jun 29, 2019 3:37 pmI didn’t turn a blind eye Peter. I saw abuse and couldn’t rationalise it away,, so sought teaching elsewhere, largely from Thrangu Rinpoche , ( during this time I also attended teachings from Sogyal, but had reservations fortunately or it would have been frying pan and fire!)..
What I sat with was an unresolvable realisation that l had received enormous benefit..from a serial abuser. I could deny neither the abuse, nor the benefit. Just dismissing him as a psychopath would have been simple but dishonest to myself. On the other hand to take the route that some of students followed and claim that the abuse was ‘crazy wisdom’ would have been equally dishonest to myself.
So I sat with it. “ straight and on the rocks” to borrow a phrase from the man himself.
Don’t think there is much to sit with. He was apparently both. Period. What’s to resolve? Given how many teachers have actually provided us with examples of being both I think we just have to grow up and deal.
If what’s really bothering you is why you didnt take direct action like beating him up or calling the cops - if you did in fact witness violence (anything else can be chalked up to consenting adults - especially in the 70’s) - then I’m not sure. I guess I reiterate my previous post.