Where I come from, if a person doesn't know the greatest works of the major world literatures, they are regarded as uneducated.
If you haven't read Goethe's Faust, for example, you're regarded as uneducated, no matter what else you might have read.
Oh that's okay, then, read Faust (well part one...in translation anyway). You do recognise that it's a completely arbitary measure, don't you? As far as my maternal grandfather was concerned, if you didn't recognise the songs of the birds you heard or the trees you saw whilst out walking, you were uneducated. My paternal grandfather on the other hand thought the measure of education was being able to calculate bookmaker's odds in your head.
Why do you presume she has to become what society expects her to?
What makes you think I presume that?
And which of society's expectations of her do you think are likely to give her hangups?
I don't know, you've brought in issues of likelihood.
I'm just responding to your question - you asked, "I wonder what you say to your daughter if she ever has hangups about becomning what mainstream society expects her to become."
This seems to presume she will have to become what society expects and that that will likely give her hangups...
(Which society are you even talking about, because it doesn't sound like your situation and mine are at all similar!)
The society that expects, for example, that women engage in sex even when they don't want to have children; the society that expects women to readily accept the risks and sacrifices that a woman, due to the specific of the female body, must make when using contraceptives (esp. hormonal ones) and risking unwanted pregnancies and having abortions.
Why do you think women only want to engage in sex if they want children, that they are forced into having sex at other times? It may have slipped your notice, but some people find sex pleasurable in and of itself, and that not all pleasurable sex is penetrative.
And you still haven't said, where is this cultural paradise where all are expected to read, "the greatest works of the major world literatures
" but where women are downtrodden and don't want to engage in sex but are forced to?