How do we deal with friends who make assumptions about us that are not true?

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bcol01
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How do we deal with friends who make assumptions about us that are not true?

Post by bcol01 » Sun Sep 02, 2018 7:55 pm

So I have a friend who use to be a psych tech in the military and he often makes assumptions about others as if he knows what they're thinking, etc. For example, I mentioned once that I had thought about going back to Church and he tells me I need to stop being self-depracating and that he thinks I have a low self-esteem. I told him it was offensive and untrue but he just kinda shrugged it off. I can't help but ruminate over this and while there are many reasons I enjoy being his friend, this know-it-all presumptuousness that he sometimes displays, puts me off to the point where I don't want to talk to him and confide in him about anything. I just need some perspective. What do you guys think? How should I respond to this?

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Re: How do we deal with friends who make assumptions about us that are not true?

Post by dude » Sun Sep 02, 2018 9:20 pm

Sounds like a good chance to develop your debating and interpersonal skills, both of which the Gohonzon can be a great help with.
Chant slowly and carefully as you pick out the logical fallacies involved. Most of all, rely on faith.

bcol01
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Re: How do we deal with friends who make assumptions about us that are not true?

Post by bcol01 » Sun Sep 02, 2018 10:31 pm

I spoke to him, he listened, apologized, deflected a bit but, things are communicated.
dude wrote:
Sun Sep 02, 2018 9:20 pm
Sounds like a good chance to develop your debating and interpersonal skills, both of which the Gohonzon can be a great help with.
Chant slowly and carefully as you pick out the logical fallacies involved. Most of all, rely on faith.

dude
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Joined: Tue Jan 01, 2013 3:38 am

Re: How do we deal with friends who make assumptions about us that are not true?

Post by dude » Tue Sep 04, 2018 9:05 pm

Sounds like you handled it quite well. :smile:

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