How do we deal with friends who make assumptions about us that are not true?
How do we deal with friends who make assumptions about us that are not true?
So I have a friend who use to be a psych tech in the military and he often makes assumptions about others as if he knows what they're thinking, etc. For example, I mentioned once that I had thought about going back to Church and he tells me I need to stop being self-depracating and that he thinks I have a low self-esteem. I told him it was offensive and untrue but he just kinda shrugged it off. I can't help but ruminate over this and while there are many reasons I enjoy being his friend, this know-it-all presumptuousness that he sometimes displays, puts me off to the point where I don't want to talk to him and confide in him about anything. I just need some perspective. What do you guys think? How should I respond to this?
In his writing, Hokkemongu (Words and Phrases of the Lotus Sutra), The Great Master Nichiren said, “If the practitioners of the Lotus Sutra wholeheartedly devote their life to the Lotus Sutra and practice according to its golden words, it is certainly needless to say that not only in the next life, but also in this lifetime they will overcome severe difficulty, prolong their life, receive the great, good fortune of unsurpassed enlightenment, and accomplish the great vow of the widespread, propagation of True Buddhism.”
Re: How do we deal with friends who make assumptions about us that are not true?
Sounds like a good chance to develop your debating and interpersonal skills, both of which the Gohonzon can be a great help with.
Chant slowly and carefully as you pick out the logical fallacies involved. Most of all, rely on faith.
Chant slowly and carefully as you pick out the logical fallacies involved. Most of all, rely on faith.
Re: How do we deal with friends who make assumptions about us that are not true?
I spoke to him, he listened, apologized, deflected a bit but, things are communicated.
In his writing, Hokkemongu (Words and Phrases of the Lotus Sutra), The Great Master Nichiren said, “If the practitioners of the Lotus Sutra wholeheartedly devote their life to the Lotus Sutra and practice according to its golden words, it is certainly needless to say that not only in the next life, but also in this lifetime they will overcome severe difficulty, prolong their life, receive the great, good fortune of unsurpassed enlightenment, and accomplish the great vow of the widespread, propagation of True Buddhism.”
Re: How do we deal with friends who make assumptions about us that are not true?
Sounds like you handled it quite well.