What do you do when someone you love leaves you feeling devalued and insignificant?

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bcol01
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What do you do when someone you love leaves you feeling devalued and insignificant?

Post by bcol01 » Tue Oct 08, 2019 8:53 pm

It's quite a hurtful thing to go through. What is the best way to deal with this type of treatment?

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Re: What do you do when someone you love leaves you feeling devalued and insignificant?

Post by tkp67 » Tue Oct 08, 2019 9:13 pm

Our value and significance are not dependent the perception of others. It is not uncommon for people in a relationship to base their value and significance on others but this is ultimately putting faith that impermanence will be permanent.

There is a middle way where our value and significance are self sustained and shared equally with those in our domain. Those who reciprocate tend to find places close to our beings.

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Re: What do you do when someone you love leaves you feeling devalued and insignificant?

Post by illarraza » Sat Oct 19, 2019 8:31 am

If the person you love UNJUSTLY leaves you feeling devalued and insignificant, there is nothing to do. What goes around comes around and they will never find fulfillment. Chanting Daimoku with a correct faith and you will find someone who will value your importance. They too can find fulfillment, despite having betrayed you, should they also come to chant the Daimoku with a correct faith. All your misfortune (and theirs) will turn to fortune should you both come to chant the Daimoku with a correct faith. Chanting the Daimoku with the same faith as Nichiren is indeed powerful.

Mark

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