There are four gathas (poems. . . ancient poems?) which Thich Nhat Hanh shared in a dharma talk one time. . . they came to mind on seeing this thread; I only really remember two of them, and they made an impact in my life..
The two I remember were
'Darling, I am here for you,'
and, 'Darling, I know you are there, and I am so happy you are there.'
The point or essence of these, as I understand it - is to let one's partner know they are appreciated - seen, valued, and so forth; during the talk he mentioned the difference of, for example, being preoccupied, and not seeing one's partner (while driving, instance), and - mindfully being in present. . .
Perhaps better illustrating. . . two other quotes along the same topic are,
'If you love someone, but seldom make yourself available to them, that is not true love,'
or, more positively expressed (also by Thay),
'If you love someone, the greatest gift you can give them is your attention.'
So then, what got me to post here was, after searching for the original gathas, coming across the following:
'There is no coming and no going, for we are always with you and you, with us. When we go home and we remember to return to our breathing, we will know that the friends at Plum Village and our Sangha Body all over the world are breathing too. Any time we like, we can take refuge in the practices of conscious breathing, mindful eating, loving speech, and many other wonderful practices. When we do, we will feel very connected and not alone. We become as large as the Sangha Body.
'Let us continue our practice as we return to our homes, our families and society. As we have learned to live in harmony with the Sangha in Plum Village, we can also cultivate harmony in our families and in society. As we have learned to understand and appreciate our friends in the practice, we can also learn to understand and appreciate our co-workers and our neighbors. We can practice loving speech with strangers on the city bus, just as we do with the sisters and brothers at Plum Village. Mindfulness practice is everywhere we go.'
(That was on the same area as here - and I came to this one from :
http://plumvillage.org/mindfulness-prac ... editation/
which can be practiced very nicely with kittens, among other mammals.
May all beings be happy, may all beings be healthy,
may all beings be at peace.
Additional - the first two I shared, are for relationships, but the same principle applies in every friendship or relation - to let someone know they are valued and appreciated, is one of the greatest aspects of - life -
Peace, and good fortune
and the other. . . to be generous with one's time, for example, is one of the greatest ways of showing that one cares - to express, that one is valued - it rather says it without words, and. . . --- along the lines of letting things flow
(If you want to travel the Way of Buddhas and Zen masters, then expect nothing, seek nothing, and grasp nothing. - Dogen)
this makes sense in this case, as well. . be available, be attentive, show love ( 'Buddhahood - the perfection of wisdom, love, and power' -HH the Dalai Lama ), and - these things can make the basis of a beneficial and fulfilling relationship.
Many good wishes and remember, have faith in yourself very much!