The Teacher-Disciple Relationship
- Dechen Norbu
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I had more than one teacher. Some I no longer visit, by one reason or another, usually because they live in another country or other usual things of life. I have deep feelings of gratitude towards them all. It's natural to have more than one teacher. I find very, very strange when teachers want exclusivity. Never met one like those. All the teachers I had never had any problem with their students learning from others.
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My closest teacher was Gelug. My practice is Kagyu. It never came up in conversation.Dharma Flower wrote:Is it possible to leave one Buddhist teacher for another or one tradition of Buddhism for another, without feeling guilt or bitter feelings about it afterward?
1.The problem isn’t ‘ignorance’. The problem is the mind you have right now. (H.H. Karmapa XVII @NYC 2/4/18)
2. I support Mingyur R and HHDL in their positions against lama abuse.
3. Student: Lama, I thought I might die but then I realized that the 3 Jewels would protect me.
Lama: Even If you had died the 3 Jewels would still have protected you. (DW post by Fortyeightvows)
2. I support Mingyur R and HHDL in their positions against lama abuse.
3. Student: Lama, I thought I might die but then I realized that the 3 Jewels would protect me.
Lama: Even If you had died the 3 Jewels would still have protected you. (DW post by Fortyeightvows)
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What if you changed traditions entirely, like going from Tibetan Buddhism to Nichiren Buddhism, or something else that's different from Tibetan Buddhism?smcj wrote:My closest teacher was Gelug. My practice is Kagyu. It never came up in conversation.Dharma Flower wrote:Is it possible to leave one Buddhist teacher for another or one tradition of Buddhism for another, without feeling guilt or bitter feelings about it afterward?
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Part of my hesitation about leaving Jodo Shinshu is their teaching that all other Buddhist paths are illegitimate for the latter age of the Dharma, and therefore we must rely exclusively on the Nembutsu and no other Buddhist practice.
While Jodo Shinshu is not a cult, this sense of exclusivity in regard to all other paths is typical of cults. It's hard to shake off that mindset once you've already been indoctrinated into it, and it can cause feelings of fear, guilt, or shame about possibly leaving the "one true path."
While Jodo Shinshu is not a cult, this sense of exclusivity in regard to all other paths is typical of cults. It's hard to shake off that mindset once you've already been indoctrinated into it, and it can cause feelings of fear, guilt, or shame about possibly leaving the "one true path."
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I think it is very difficult to have a sustained teacher/disciple relationship with someone that you don't like.Malcolm wrote:Your teacher is not your friend. He or she is someone in whom you've placed your trust to guide you in the Dharma.Dharma Flower wrote:How concerned should we be over whether our teacher likes us or not? What if a teacher and a disciple don't like each other as people? Can it still be a beneficial relationship? Can a Dharma relationship transcend personal likes and dislikes? I appreciate your help.
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As I understood it, his basic position was that whatever you chose as your path was the appropriateness/perfection of the Dharma interacting with your own individuall karma. So it was entirely a matter of personal choice. But on the other hand I doubt he'd have encouraged someone to join Scientology. Fortunately that kind of issue never came up.Dharma Flower wrote:What if you changed traditions entirely, like going from Tibetan Buddhism to Nichiren Buddhism, or something else that's different from Tibetan Buddhism?smcj wrote:My closest teacher was Gelug. My practice is Kagyu. It never came up in conversation.Dharma Flower wrote:Is it possible to leave one Buddhist teacher for another or one tradition of Buddhism for another, without feeling guilt or bitter feelings about it afterward?
1.The problem isn’t ‘ignorance’. The problem is the mind you have right now. (H.H. Karmapa XVII @NYC 2/4/18)
2. I support Mingyur R and HHDL in their positions against lama abuse.
3. Student: Lama, I thought I might die but then I realized that the 3 Jewels would protect me.
Lama: Even If you had died the 3 Jewels would still have protected you. (DW post by Fortyeightvows)
2. I support Mingyur R and HHDL in their positions against lama abuse.
3. Student: Lama, I thought I might die but then I realized that the 3 Jewels would protect me.
Lama: Even If you had died the 3 Jewels would still have protected you. (DW post by Fortyeightvows)
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Perhaps this is why it is said there are 84,000 paths to enlightenment.smcj wrote: As I understood it, his basic position was that whatever you chose as your path was the appropriateness/perfection of the Dharma interacting with your own individuall karma.
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I am now discussing this topic in the following thread instead:
https://dharmawheel.net/viewtopic.php?f=34&t=25692
Thank you for your help and advice.
https://dharmawheel.net/viewtopic.php?f=34&t=25692
Thank you for your help and advice.
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That's right))) ...take it further.... what would happen if you always accepted the big picture? I would suggest that we would still have likes (kindness to children) and dislikes (cruelty to the innocent) but there would be no tension and our respective efforts would be more effective. No?Dharma Flower wrote:Thank you for your response. I think we also need to question our likes and dislikes, as to whether they are motivated by our misconceptions of the other person or by our own insecurities.
For example, we might get the wrong message from something if we don't try to look at the bigger picture. If someone doesn't answer an email, for example, that doesn't mean they don't appreciate you. It depends on their situation.
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I am now starting to realize that I never really disliked my previous teacher. What I really needed was to look for a different Buddhist tradition, but that doesn't reflect negatively on my previous teacher. Perhaps I just needed to move on.tomschwarz wrote:That's right))) ...take it further.... what would happen if you always accepted the big picture? I would suggest that we would still have likes (kindness to children) and dislikes (cruelty to the innocent) but there would be no tension and our respective efforts would be more effective. No?Dharma Flower wrote:Thank you for your response. I think we also need to question our likes and dislikes, as to whether they are motivated by our misconceptions of the other person or by our own insecurities.
For example, we might get the wrong message from something if we don't try to look at the bigger picture. If someone doesn't answer an email, for example, that doesn't mean they don't appreciate you. It depends on their situation.
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In the future, I might return to the Jodo Shinshu temple. I needed to take a break from the temple because, in the near future, the Sensei will be moving back to Japan, and I needed to get over my attachment to him before he leaves. I needed to let go of my attachment, so that I can be at peace for when he leaves.