Has anyone had any experience in coordinating an intervention for someone with a substance-abuse problem? Their behaviour and mood has become very erratic due to this long term dependence born from a different health condition and the changes they bring to the brain. They are in the process of tapering down their dosage over time but they are resistant to the idea of it even being possible to fully recover.
There is also now real potential for them being violent which is why I'm now considering how to move forward with this with more sensitivity and tact. I'm thinking about contacting his girlfreind who has also noticed his changes but I'm at a loss for what to actually say.
Has anyone else dealt with family members or friends on a very self-destructive path? What helped? What didn't help?
interventions for self-destructive freinds/family?
interventions for self-destructive freinds/family?
'When thoughts arise, recognise them clearly as your teacher'— Gampopa
'When alone, examine your mind, when among others, examine your speech'.— Atisha
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Re: interventions for self-destructive freinds/family?
There are different ways to say it, you have to relate to your style as a human being, but the message is:
Life is short
Soon you will die in any case
Before your life is over consider prioritising the things that you beieve are important
That will hopefully at some point open a discussion about the meaning of life. We all have to discover that meaning in our own minds/words/non conceptual.
For me, in words, the meaning of life is to open your heart and care for others and for yourself by providing the things we really need to be happy. Sharing my opinion on the meaning of life with your friend will get the ball rolling )))))
Love
Tom
Life is short
Soon you will die in any case
Before your life is over consider prioritising the things that you beieve are important
That will hopefully at some point open a discussion about the meaning of life. We all have to discover that meaning in our own minds/words/non conceptual.
For me, in words, the meaning of life is to open your heart and care for others and for yourself by providing the things we really need to be happy. Sharing my opinion on the meaning of life with your friend will get the ball rolling )))))
Love
Tom
i dedicate this post to your happiness, the causes of your happiness, the absence of your suffering the causes of the absence of your suffering that we may not have too much attachment nor aversion. SAMAYAMANUPALAYA
Re: interventions for self-destructive freinds/family?
Throw them a cup of cold water over their head! Oops!
How others act to us is their karma, not ours. How we act is ours.
I now remember these words: see them as your injured parents or injured children, now in such an unfortunate state.
Sometimes, there is no way to interact with dialogue. Whether they are called family or not. What about letting go without excluding them in own practice?
Someone can tell more about this?
Meaning, Tom, oh yes.
How others act to us is their karma, not ours. How we act is ours.
I now remember these words: see them as your injured parents or injured children, now in such an unfortunate state.
Sometimes, there is no way to interact with dialogue. Whether they are called family or not. What about letting go without excluding them in own practice?
Someone can tell more about this?
Meaning, Tom, oh yes.
We are visitors on this planet. We are here for 90 or 100 years at the very most. During that period we must try to do something good, something useful with our lives.
If you contribute to others happiness, you will find the true goal, the true meaning of life.
Re: interventions for self-destructive freinds/family?
"A successful intervention is not a confrontation but an opportunity for an addicted individual to accept help in taking the first step toward recovery." https://drugabuse.com/library/drug-inte ... -programs/they are resistant to the idea of it even being possible to fully recover.
Re: interventions for self-destructive freinds/family?
Have you contacted local 12 step programs or counselors? There are many people experienced with this.
Sometimes only a recovering addict who has gotten clean can relate.
Get some professional assistance.
Sometimes only a recovering addict who has gotten clean can relate.
Get some professional assistance.
There is no suffering to be severed. Ignorance and klesas are indivisible from bodhi. There is no cause of suffering to be abandoned. Since extremes and the false are the Middle and genuine, there is no path to be practiced. Samsara is nirvana. No severance achieved. No suffering nor its cause. No path, no end. There is no transcendent realm; there is only the one true aspect. There is nothing separate from the true aspect.
-Guanding, Perfect and Sudden Contemplation,
-Guanding, Perfect and Sudden Contemplation,
Re: interventions for self-destructive freinds/family?
Find a trained psychologist skilled in both addiction/alcoholism & arranging interventions. Otherwise I would not go there. The psychologist is there to represent you as a family, not the addict/alcoholic. Hopefully they are already working with someone, but psychologists are like lawyers, they will always represent their client. Been there done this! Good luck!!
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Re: interventions for self-destructive freinds/family?
I think you're right about professional assistance Queequeg. The first hurdle is actually helping them see recovery is possible. At the moment it seems they don't feel it possible so the incentive isn't there yet.
And Thomas, He is nihlistic/atheist so It will be difficult to speak on meaning of life/ precious human birth etc,
Muni, yes. He needs to see that first step as possible.
The complication here is his physical health condition which results in interrupted sleep every night. Even if he reduces his dosage over time ( sudden withdrawal not wise here) he will still have the initial problem of never having a full sleep cycle
I'm going to try and speak with a professional.
And Thomas, He is nihlistic/atheist so It will be difficult to speak on meaning of life/ precious human birth etc,
Muni, yes. He needs to see that first step as possible.
The complication here is his physical health condition which results in interrupted sleep every night. Even if he reduces his dosage over time ( sudden withdrawal not wise here) he will still have the initial problem of never having a full sleep cycle
I'm going to try and speak with a professional.
'When thoughts arise, recognise them clearly as your teacher'— Gampopa
'When alone, examine your mind, when among others, examine your speech'.— Atisha
'When alone, examine your mind, when among others, examine your speech'.— Atisha
Re: interventions for self-destructive freinds/family?
Several close friends from childhood/teen years got caught up with heroin. Heroin killed a few of them. The one's who survived their 20s, I'm happy to report, got clean and are now back to the world of the living. They have careers, families, all that stuff. Seeing them get clean was a relief and its great to have my friends back.
None of them got clean until they were ready. Some got clean sooner than others. Some, it took a long time for them to see they had things to live for and get that desire to get clean.
The best thing for your friend is to talk to people who have lived the dark times he is living now. It might not take the first time, or second time, or third, fourth, fifth, but, hopefully someone, somehow, will get through to them in that dark room and show them there is a way out, that they are living proof that there is a way out.
I think the best you can do is to be a friend and help your friend get help. Be ready for a long path. Be ready to be a friend who doesn't get anything back in return, except maybe grief.
All the best.
None of them got clean until they were ready. Some got clean sooner than others. Some, it took a long time for them to see they had things to live for and get that desire to get clean.
The best thing for your friend is to talk to people who have lived the dark times he is living now. It might not take the first time, or second time, or third, fourth, fifth, but, hopefully someone, somehow, will get through to them in that dark room and show them there is a way out, that they are living proof that there is a way out.
I think the best you can do is to be a friend and help your friend get help. Be ready for a long path. Be ready to be a friend who doesn't get anything back in return, except maybe grief.
All the best.
There is no suffering to be severed. Ignorance and klesas are indivisible from bodhi. There is no cause of suffering to be abandoned. Since extremes and the false are the Middle and genuine, there is no path to be practiced. Samsara is nirvana. No severance achieved. No suffering nor its cause. No path, no end. There is no transcendent realm; there is only the one true aspect. There is nothing separate from the true aspect.
-Guanding, Perfect and Sudden Contemplation,
-Guanding, Perfect and Sudden Contemplation,
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Re: interventions for self-destructive freinds/family?
That is amazing Muni. So true and relates to much.
Vasana use that. How? Use your meditation time to "see", and feel in your heart, how your friend acts IS his fate. No god stuff here. This is about the mind (mostly)
i dedicate this post to your happiness, the causes of your happiness, the absence of your suffering the causes of the absence of your suffering that we may not have too much attachment nor aversion. SAMAYAMANUPALAYA