Birthday Practices?

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Birthday Practices?

Post by Tenma » Fri Mar 06, 2020 2:48 pm

Any prayers or mantras to recite on one’s own birthday? I noticed there are ones for the New Year, so wanted to see if it also applies to birthdays.

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Re: Birthday Practices?

Post by PadmaVonSamba » Fri Mar 06, 2020 11:37 pm

There is one kind of ceremony I have heard of but it’s really odd. It is only performed for a person once a year.

First, some kind of ritual cake is prepared, often with the name of the person whose birthday it is inscribed on top.
The ritual begins with turning off all the lights in a room, making it as dark as possible.
Next, special offering candles which have been placed in the ritual cake are lit, and everybody sings the liturgy, including in it the name of the person in it whose birthday is being observed. That part is very important. The name of the person must be sung too.

Here’s the really weird part: the person whose birthday it is makes a secret wish, which they must not reveal to anyone. If they reveal the wish, this destroys the power of the wish ceremony. Then, to seal the secret wish, the person whose birthday it is must then blow out all of the offering candles in the ritual cake at the same time.
Then, the ritual cake is shared and eaten.
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Re: Birthday Practices?

Post by Ayu » Fri Mar 06, 2020 11:39 pm

Searched on you tube and found some Buddhist Birthday songs. Most of them play only Happy Birthday. :smile:
Seems to me, celebrating birthday is a western tradition.

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Re: Birthday Practices?

Post by Könchok Thrinley » Sat Mar 07, 2020 12:11 am

Yeah, birhtday is more of a western thing. But! You can do many things. Let's take a look at it logically. What do we wish people when they have birthdays? Long life, happiness, luck, etc. So I would say that birthday is a good time for long life practice (white tara, amitayus, etc), prosperity practice (tara, dzambhala,etc) and ofcourse generosity and other good deeds of body, speech and mind.
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Re: Birthday Practices?

Post by Tenma » Sat Mar 07, 2020 3:29 am

PadmaVonSamba wrote:
Fri Mar 06, 2020 11:37 pm
There is one kind of ceremony I have heard of but it’s really odd. It is only performed for a person once a year.

First, some kind of ritual cake is prepared, often with the name of the person whose birthday it is inscribed on top.
The ritual begins with turning off all the lights in a room, making it as dark as possible.
Next, special offering candles which have been placed in the ritual cake are lit, and everybody sings the liturgy, including in it the name of the person in it whose birthday is being observed. That part is very important. The name of the person must be sung too.

Here’s the really weird part: the person whose birthday it is makes a secret wish, which they must not reveal to anyone. If they reveal the wish, this destroys the power of the wish ceremony. Then, to seal the secret wish, the person whose birthday it is must then blow out all of the offering candles in the ritual cake at the same time.
Then, the ritual cake is shared and eaten.
What a fascinating torma ritual! Indeed, this must be a serious occasion of pain and happiness!!! Shall the cake be a fusion of red and white? :rolling:

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Re: Birthday Practices?

Post by jmlee369 » Sat Mar 07, 2020 9:15 am

It is common practice in Korea to sponsor the meal offering ceremony at a temple on one's birthday, and especially make offerings of rice cakes which are then distibuted to the participants. Hisotrically in Chinese monasteries there was the practice of wealtheir patrons sponsoring performance of Medicine Buddha pu fo ritual on birthdays (esp. for parents) followed by a vegetarian feast.

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