dumb bonbu wrote:however, we are here as we believe that committing oneself to the Three Jewels is the only way to find a lasting happiness beyond and above the mundane pleasures that the material world and also other religions philosophies, medicines etc. offer.
Dear Dumb Bonbu
The Eternal Spirit is above the mundane pleasures the material world offers.
It does still concern me that you resort to gender-stereotyping.
The Eternal Spirit sees reality clearly, not unclearly. The Eternal Spirit is discerning, not undiscerning. The Eternal Spirit is set free by wisdom, not by sentiment. The Eternal Spirit sees 'what is what'.
The Lord Buddha was the incarnation of the Eternal Spirit. When the Eternal Spirit spoke through his material form, it said:
A man, O Brahmin, is a woman's aim, her quest is for adnornments, her mainstay is sons, her desire is to be without a co-wife and her ideal is domination.
Anguttara Nikaya 6.52
Further, in the Samyutta Nikaya, there is the Matugamasamyutta
, the Connected Discourses on Women
. Here the Lord Buddha speaks of peculiar qualities of women.
In the Saññoga Sutta
, the Buddha explains how dwelling on one's sexual identity only leads to greater suffering.
"I will teach you a Dhamma discourse on bondage & lack of bondage. Listen & pay close attention. I will speak."
"Yes, lord," the monks responded.
The Blessed One said: "A woman attends inwardly to her feminine faculties, her feminine gestures, her feminine manners, feminine poise, feminine desires, feminine voice, feminine charms. She is excited by that, delighted by that. She is excited by that, delighted by that. This is how a woman does not transcend her femininity.
"A man attends inwardly to his masculine faculties, masculine gestures, masculine manners, masculine poise, masculine desires, masculine voice, masculine charms. He is excited by that, delighted by that. Delighting, caught up in his masculinity, a man goes into bondage with reference to women. This is how a man does not transcend his masculinity.
The truth is, encouraging women to the spiritual path because they are 'women' will not lead far. The path to the Eternal Spirit begins with the perception of suffering or dukkha
A mind stuck on 'male' or 'female', will miss its true nature, namely, the Eternal Spirit. Buddha also said:
Luminous, monks, is the mind. And it is defiled by incoming defilements."
"Luminous, monks, is the mind. And it is freed from incoming defilements."
"Luminous, monks, is the mind. And it is defiled by incoming defilements. The uninstructed run-of-the-mill person doesn't discern that as it actually is present, which is why I tell you that — for the uninstructed run-of-the-mill person — there is no development of the mind."
"Luminous, monks, is the mind. And it is freed from incoming defilements. The well-instructed disciple of the noble ones discerns that as it actually is present, which is why I tell you that — for the well-instructed disciple of the noble ones — there is development of the mind."
The luminous mind (aka The Eternal Spirit) is free from 'male' and 'female'. Thus the Lord also said:
Having slain mother
(self-conceit), two warrior-kings (eternalism and nihilism), and destroyed a country (sense organs and sense objects) together with its treasurer (attachment and lust), ungrieving goes the holy man.