Thanks a lot for all of your replies, especially since this is supposed to be common or trivial issue in all marriages - and I was not expecting so many replies. So thanks for the advice everyone.
My wife's one of the best person on Earth, and everything is very good between both of us. In fact, we both are what people usually describe as "true lovers" (not boasting
). She is very friendly and extroverted and everyone who meets her can never hate her. I am more introverted and patient one in our relationship. I would describe her as having extreme emotions. When she is kind, generous and loving, she is on the extreme of all these emotions. But the problem is when the emotion is anger. It can be very extreme for her too, and being an introvert who doesn't socialize much, I have rarely had confrontation or conflicts with people. So when I had arguments with her during our anger outbursts, it usually is more than what I can handle. SO the problem is also from my side. I believe if I was good enough, she won't have to get angry either.
As I had written earlier, the reason for my concern is that her anger outbursts is something like a seasonal flu, only more often, that comes when it has to come suddenly. And then, it could be any reason for her, any small provocation that will turn her into an enraged person. If some event X caused her to become extremely angry, happened at some other time, then I am very certain it wouldn't evoke the same reaction. This was my real concern.
I haven't really tried chanting mantras on my mind during such rare episodes of arguments between us (I am myself not in control to do so), but I am pretty sure this will work (as a Buddhist).
One more thing is that I know there is nothing perfect in this world, and if something is too perfect it cannot last long. Usually things are a balance of opposites. When I think in this way, I tend to believe that we cannot be deeply in love all the time (I am afraid it wont last long like that), so I usually do not mind when I've had arguments with her once in a while.
The reason I had started this thread was because I was alone after our argument yesterday and was pondering on how I could improve things - but today things are so normal that I am myself amazed that we were shouting at each other just yesterday.