I generally find that men succesful in dating women give much better advice than women on how to attract other women. And no, presenting your feelings and sensitivity isn't generally what women initially find attractive.
There are some basic primitive attractors that will help a lot. Look good, dress nicely and be presentable, value good manners.
Then some basic masculine attractors like being assertive and natural confidence / Don't be a such a pleaser and don't be desperate. Lots of guys spend years trying to either cultivate or fake these since they work very well. I think basically if you find something you love doing and get very good at that and generally endeavour not to sell yourself short in life you'll have come a long way. The whole "I'll fix my low confidence by being more confident
" will only take you so far. You'll need to cultivate things in your life that actually makes you relaxed and confident of who you are and where you are going in your life.
On the plus side, if one really wants to get better at dating in the right way, you have a good incentive here to really improve your own life through this in order to improve your dating skills.
If you're too busy and passionate with all the other great stuff you've got going on your life that dating becomes more of a tertiary thing, dating will also become a lot easier.
If talking to women is a problem, you might need a bootcamp style "approach approach approach" programme for a while to get over yourself.
From there, just present yourself as you are without dressing it up or down. Your own stuff isn't necessarily that weird or that great to others and you don't need to decide for them what they should make of it.
The way I see it, you've got to learn to establish initial attraction somehow. From there, it's a matter of inviting women into your world and having them like that even more. If they don't, you've got to ask yourself whether you like what they don't like. If you do, then you've successfully screen an unsuitable partner. If you don't, you've found a point to develop yourself with.